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“One man’s fish is another man’s poisson”

July 6, 2013

Boston is officially suffering through a heat wave. We aren’t because the cape is a few degrees cooler. Today will be 88˚, but the humidity is making the weather even more unbearable. Walk around outside and it smothers you, draws the life right out of your body. I, however, will never suffer that fate. I have become a hermit in the comfort of my air-conditioned home. Yesterday I went out about three times to the deck. The first time was to water the plants and the other two times were to warm up my feet. Yup, the AC forced me to put on socks. I felt sort of silly.

Gracie loves being in the cool house. She goes outside and squats then runs right back to the door to be let inside. The cats, however, have a different take on the AC. They find sun spots on the floor from the windows and sit there taking in the warmth. Fern, especially, misses the warmth. Usually in the morning she would lie in the sun streaming through the front door and sleep so deeply I could hear her small snores.  The poor babies will have to wait a bit before it is cool enough to turn off the AC and open doors and windows.

Where I lived in Ghana was about as far from the ocean as you could get and still be in Ghana. The only fish you could find in the Bolga market was smoked and dried and looked disgusting, almost leathery. I didn’t even try it. It always seemed a bit strange to me that many Ghanaians actually preferred the dried fish to fresh. I used to think it was because they didn’t get fresh fish, but Grace, who lives in Accra, which is right on the ocean, buys dried fish. She won’t eat it fresh, thought the whole idea was a bit disgusting, but for those of us who love fish the Ghanaian seaside is like paradise. Some of the best fish dinners can be bought at small thatched huts along the shore. The huts have a few tables with benches, always a bit unsteady on the sand, and brightly colored umbrellas with beer logos to shield diners from the hot sun. The owners, who are generally the cooks, buy the fish right off the boats. The fish is usually wrapped in banana leaves and cooked over charcoal. The taste is amazing. Red snapper is my favorite.

In Togo, a country bordering Ghana, I had my first taste of barbecued lobster. It was dinner on the patio of a fairly large, sort of posh hotel, where we could never afford to stay but eating on the patio was within the budget of a Peace Corps volunteer: translation-it was inexpensive, maybe even cheap. My friend Ralph and I sat under an umbrella and watched as the lobster was cut down the middle then cooked. It was delicious.

Our mid-tour conference was at Dixcove, a neat little fishing village down the coast from Accra. We stayed in small cottages right on the ocean. I don’t remember anything about the technical parts of the conference, but I remember the rock lobster. We’d went to the village and paid a few guys small money to dive for the rock lobsters then we paid to have them cooked. Eating them was a divine experience I’ll never forget.

“Why does Sea World have a seafood restaurant?? I’m halfway through my fish burger and I realize, Oh my God….I could be eating a slow learner.”

July 5, 2013

Yesterday was a quiet July 4th for me. I watched the Sox win from the comfort of my air-conditioned house. At game time it was 92˚, and I couldn’t imagine sitting in the bleachers in all that heat. Fenway must have been awash with sweat. Last night I could hear the sounds of firecrackers from all over the neighborhood. I watched Independence Day. That and Jaws are my traditional July 4th movies, “You yell ‘Shark,’ we’ve got a panic on our hands on the Fourth of July.” Last night I watched the Boston Pops on the esplanade.  All in all it was a good day.

My father loved to fish, mostly in the winter for smelt. He also dug quahogs. He’d fill his basket, bring them home and open the shells. My mother would make stuffed quahog, put the stuffing into the shells, and we’d have some right away while she froze the rest. I loved smelt though they were so small it took several to make a meal. Baked, stuffed quahog is still a favorite of mine.

My mother didn’t serve fresh fish when we were growing up. I remember meatless Friday nights and having French fries and fish sticks for dinner. As we got older, my mother got a bit of courage and started serving fresh fish. She started with a casserole, sort of fish in disguise, and we ate it up. That casserole also had shrimp, and I remember it was heavenly. We’d ask for it often. I still make every now and then, but somehow it just doesn’t taste the same as my mother’s. I swear she had a golden touch.

I love fish and shellfish. Lobster is one of my favorites. Sometimes when I’d visit my parents for the weekend, my dad would take my mom and me out to dinner for twin lobsters. The only problem was there was nowhere to hide. Sitting beside or across from my father made you a target, and you knew there was no way to avoid the squirts as my dad devoured his lobster. He was the best lobster eater I’ve ever seen. Even the small amount of meat from the legs got eaten. He was also one of the noisiest as he sucked the meat from those legs and hmmed his way through the lobster. When he was finished only shells were left, never a trace of lobster meat.

My sister and I learned to eat lobster by watching our dad. We are also messy, and we are never quiet. We eat every piece of meat, even from the legs. We pride ourselves on our prowess in devouring a lobster. Without question, it is one of the best life lessons my dad taught us.

“I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach.”

July 2, 2013

The day is thick with an intermittent breeze. Rain is again predicted, maybe even thunder showers. The sun won’t be making an appearance until tomorrow when the weather report predicts partly cloudy. I think they could have thrown us a bone and said partly sunny instead.

I used to like to miniature golf. I admit, though, that the windmill sometimes gave me trouble even with its three openings to the hole. My ball usually hit the wall between the openings and bounced right back at me. I’d keep count, one stroke, then try again, two strokes, and hope the ball would go through and maybe even into the hole. Nope, that never happened. It usually went through but to a corner, and I’d have to move the ball a club head length away from the side so I could putt. Par was like a magic number to me. The best thing about the miniature golf course in my town was it took just a minute or two to walk to the Chinese restaurant after a strenuous 18 holes.

We used to spend the whole day at the beach, usually Sunday because Saturday was my dad’s errand and chore day. We swam, walked the beach, collected shells, ate sandy food and were never bored, not the whole day. My mother wasn’t a swimmer. She had never learned how. She used to sit on the blanket and read and keep an eye on my two sisters who never strayed far. She wasn’t worried about my brother or me as we could swim, and she could see us walking along the shore or throwing rocks into the water. I remember she’d go crazy if we stepped on the blanket with sandy feet. That meant taking everything off and shaking out the blanket. The picnic basket was always on one side to anchor the blanket and keep it from blowing. We’d eat lunch and then periodically comb the basket for a snack as the day lengthened. Usually we’d find cookies or fruit. In the late afternoon, it was time to pack everything up and trudge to the car. My dad always put a towel on the seat to keep the seat dry and the sand out of his car. He’d then have us sit on the edge of the seat while he dunked our feet in a bucket of water to get the sand off and then we’d inside the car so the next sandy feet could be cleaned. The ride home was usually a blur as I slept most of the way.

I remember lying on my pillow as I was falling asleep and feeling warm water drip out of my ear. It was the weirdest sensation.

“If you can see the aliens in the UFO, it’s already too late.”

July 1, 2013

Gee, are those drops I hear outside my window? I bet it rained earlier this morning and last night, and I figure you can even guess what comes next: the rain left a damp, cloudy day. If it weren’t for the sandy cape soil, my world would be afloat. I’ve lost track of the number of rainy days in a row. I think it is edging toward forty days and forty nights. Oops, that would be Noah’s count, not mine, but I am beginning to feel a certain kinship to him and his plight. The weather in the paper said sun on Wednesday, but I am a skeptic with a wait and see attitude.

I am not a happy person today. The tweeting bluebirds have gone elsewhere, and there are no singing mice wearing little jackets or dresses and wielding needles. Did you ever notice the boy mice wear only jackets? I never did. As always I digressed so back to my bad mood, and back is the key to that mood. I woke up sore and in pain. I expected a full recovery by this time, a click my heels in the air and dance recovery. I know it hasn’t yet been two weeks, but I figured the pain would be gone by now. The nurse is coming in about an hour so maybe she’ll give me more information. She’ll check the redness which I hope the antibiotics have attacked with great ferocity.

Everything is just so green and lush from all this rain, but with all the water and lots of puddles, I do worry that the mosquitos will lay millions of eggs and take over the world. I saw that movie; of course, I did. Mutated mosquitos just picked up people and flew off to munch their prey at their leisure.

I remember telling my mother there was nothing to do in the whole town when she wouldn’t give me money to go horseback riding. I feel a bit like that now. I get bored easily. I start to read, and my mind wanders. I play hearts on the computer and lose more than I win. I’m now watching a movie I’ve seen before, Battleship. It’s kind of a fun movie though and better, I think, than its reviews. The aliens are believable. The good guys win. You can’t ask more than that.

“The optimist sees the donut, the pessimist sees the hole.”

June 30, 2013

My mood and the day are a perfect match: dark and dismal. My back is fine so I have no complaints there, but my leg in the morning is always unhappy, and it takes a while for modern medicine to work its magic. Until then the leg goes up on the couch, off the couch and back up again a few times while I try to find a comfortable, less painful spot. Most times I am not all that lucky. As for right now, the marvel of medicine has done its job.

I still think of Sunday as a do nothing sort of day. When I was a kid, it was a quiet day. After breakfast, I’d dress for church. Unless I was up early enough to go with my dad, my brother and I walked to mass together. My dad was an usher, the guy who passed the basket. It was a neat basket with a handle so long the basket reached to the middle of the long middle pews. My dad did the center first then one side while his partner did the other. Those were the days of suits, even in the summer. My dad didn’t have a light weight suit. I don’t even know if they had them back then. His suits were dark black or blue or gray. He always wore a starched white shirt. On the way home he’d stop to get the Sunday paper and a dozen donuts. He was a plain donut man. My mother was never a coffee drinker, but she loved dunking her donuts in coffee, her plain donuts. Back then I was a jelly donut fan and was a pro at catching the oozy jelly from the bottom hole before it hit my shirt. It is a skill in which I still excel though now I prefer lemon to jelly, but my favorite of all is a butternut donut. I don’t get donuts often, but yesterday my friend brought me iced coffee and a lemon donut. That donut was perfectly fresh and delicious, and not a drop of lemon fell.

“The grocery store is the great equalizer where mankind comes to grips with the facts of life like toilet tissue”

June 29, 2013

I don’t think I have ever heard such thunder in my whole life. It roared overhead as if a jet were flying low to the ground and passing over my house. Gracie and I were both jolted from sleep, no waking up and stretching to the morning. We sat up and looked at the ceiling as if we could see the sound. When the thunder finally faded away, we both went back to sleep only to be jolted again by as loud a clap as the first. The ceiling gave us no hint this time either. Gracie and I admitted defeat and got out of bed. I showered. She laid down and waited.

Last night’s heavy rain left a damp, dark day, the same sort of day as yesterday’s when we never did see the sun though Fenway Park had sun for the Sox game last night. Maybe it was sun or just maybe it was the god of baseball shining on the home team.

My Peapod order is due sometime between now and 3 o’clock. I took the wide window to save a couple of dollars. That made me chuckle. I am not generally the save a few bucks sort of shopper. I never check weight against price or buy something simply because it’s on sale. I don’t know what prompted me to choose the crazy time, but I did feel a bit proud and certainly quite parsimonious.

I started going through the recipes I’ve torn or cut out from newspapers and magazines. I made several piles like appies, dessert, chicken, beef, pasta, foreign, potatoes, salads and on and on and on. My piles got out of hand, I ran out of space and I got bored. I decided to redo the piles so I went to appies, sides, meats and desserts. I got about a third of the way through my cuttings and decided I’d had enough. I put everything together in one pile and put it away. I’m just about back where I started. I don’t care because when I’m old and bed-ridden, this will give me something to do.

“I think the discomfort that some people feel in going to the monkey cages at the zoo is a warning sign.”

June 27, 2013

This morning I have reconnected with the world. The air conditioner is off, and the windows are open. The only noise is Gracie’s annoying barking. I used to go check to see what was she was barking about but never saw a thing. I swear she barks just to drive me crazy, sort of a dog’s Gaslight. I know her intruder bark but this annoying bark has no definition; hence, the gaslight reference. When last the windows were open, my neighbor’s house was being reshingled and I could hear the nail gun. That job now seems to be finished, and I couldn’t be more delighted. My morning is back.

My sister left yesterday, and the house feels so empty. She was a great nurse but she was better company. It will take me a few days to get used to being alone again. Soon enough I’ll be back to talking out loud to no one.

Every day is better. My back has very little pain. The mornings are still the roughest, but I no longer have to grab stuff like the bureau or the table to walk from my room to the bathroom. I’m seeing the doctor this morning so he can check the incision. The nurse was a bit concerned, but that was long enough ago that the soreness is just about gone, and I probably really don’t need to see the doctor. I can already tell this surgery went better than the last. I am walking almost completely upright. I keep seeing that picture of the stages of the evolution of man. I was, for a long while, the chimp on the left, at the low point of evolution but am happy to say I am moving up the scale. That second chimp and I are far more similar than we’ve been. I’ll celebrate when I moved all the way to the right.

I have a few catalogs with dog-eared pages. I am going shopping. My psyche needs a lift. I’ve had my eye on a few things I thought too expensive and frivolous, but today I’m in a frivolous mood. Hang the expense!  I deserve a treat!!

For dessert this evening I’m going to have coconut ice cream with chocolate caramel sea salt sauce. Today I am a hedonist!!

Hiatus

June 25, 2013

hi·a·tus  (hts)

n. pl. hi·a·tus·es or hiatus

1. A gap or interruption in space, time, or continuity; a break: “We are likely to be disconcerted by . . . hiatuses of thought” (Edmund Wilson).
     I am taking a hiatus today. My leg is bothering me , okay bother is an understatement, and my mind refuses to wrap itself around anything of consequence. Talk to you on Thursday!!

“A bird does not sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song.”

June 24, 2013

My computer and I are sitting on the deck where a fair breeze is blowing away the heat and humidity. Gracie is lying in the shade, and Sheila is reading the paper and catching me up on the events of the world. Kay Starr is belting out Fool, Fool, Fool on iTunes and my neighbor’s house is being reshingled. I can hear the tap, tap of the nail gun, twice on each shingle. Meanwhile, the AC is on and my house will soon be cool. The morning is lovely right now, but I can already feel the heat the weatherman promised will be with us for three or four days. The deck looks lovely in the morning light. The potted flowers are in bloom, and their different colors brighten the day. The birds are singing noisily and are busy at the feeders, in and out, in and out.

A chickadee couple is quite the sensation. They fly together from branch to branch and perch together. They just flew so close to Sheila and me we could have touched each of them. Their tiny wings were fluttering by my ear, and Sheila said one brushed her cheek the other day. We figure a nest is near by so we’re keeping an eye out hoping to see it.

I’ve moved into the house. The sun hit me, and there are few places to hide. The house feels amazing, cool and inviting. I’m even going to have some toast. Lately I just haven’t felt like eating but today seemed a toast day, a rye toast day.

Okay, I’ve sat up far too long. I get stiff when I either sit or lie down too long, and I’ve hit that point and am ready to switch positions, to lie down. I’m thinking a nap.

Every day gets better!!

“I sew his ears on from time to time, sure.”

June 18, 2013

We are blessed yet again with a beautiful day, sunny with a pleasant breeze. The weather says showers later, but I’m okay with some rain. We haven’t had any in a few days. Yesterday I watered all the flowers on my deck and the vegetable garden just below the deck, and I had to fill the watering can a couple of times so the rain will help. Yesterday I also replaced a set of lights in the backyard. They are wound around a metal rod and look wonderful at night. Because the yard is all brush and trees, the lights look brilliant shining through the darkness. Two stars of white lights shine on the other side of the yard. At night, I like to stand by the deck rail and just look at the yard. It’s like having hundreds of fireflies putting on a show.

I have a busy day today making and changing beds, doing a laundry and some grocery shopping. My sister is coming down and staying a few days, all because of my back. It has been horrible of late so I saw a neurosurgeon in Hyannis a couple of weeks ago who had me get new x-rays and an MRI. When I saw him last week for the results, he said nothing really had changed since the last surgery, but he suggested I have surgery to add two more screws to the side opposite where the two screws already are. He said it could help or not, but it wouldn’t make it worse. The idea that it might help was enough so I agreed. I’m having surgery tomorrow. The hospital stay should be a couple of days so Coffee will go dark until Saturday at the earliest, but maybe not. I’m bringing my iPad so if I feel okay, I’ll post Thursday or Friday. Nothing better than an insider’s look at the hospital. I’ll be in a single room so no roommate horror stories. I could go Stephen King and make something up. I think a hospital is a great spot for eerie doings and wandering spirits. My imagination can go hog-wild.

My sister is taking care of the cats and Gracie. Fern and Maddie are easy, but Miss Gracie demands a lot of attention. She’ll also want to sleep in the single bed with my sister. I’m changing my bed just in case Sheila needs more room to share. She also came down for last surgery, and we’re both hoping the recovery will be as easy as it was the last time. I’m happy for the company. I don’t see her often enough.

I expect all will go well and we’ll be chatting again in a few days!