Archive for the ‘Musings’ category

“Oh dear sunday, I want to sleep in your arms and have fun day.”

May 27, 2018

Today is as predicted, cloudy, chilly and damp. A strong breeze is making it feel chillier. I had to shut the window in here, less because of the breeze and more for the pollen. The phone was covered with the yellowish dust as were most of the other surfaces. My handy sweatshirt sleeve was a great duster.

Not much is happening. My life is quiet. Today I’m hoping the weather will keep the crowds away from the garden shop. I want to get my front garden perennials, the plant for the step and my hanging deck plant. The rest I’ll get later in the week when I know my factotum is coming.

Summer mornings are my favorite times of the day. The air is cool. The birds are singing. I sit on the deck with my coffee and papers. Birds fly over my head on their way to the feeders. I often put down the paper and just sit and listen. It is the most delightful way to start the day.

When I was a kid, summer was casual. On Saturday my dad did his errands and lawn work. We’d go to the drive-in on Saturday night a couple of times a month. I remember my dad handing out the candy and popcorn he’d brought. We never went to the concession stand. Other Saturday nights my dad barbecued hot dogs and burgers.

On Sunday was always church in the morning. Sometimes we’d go to the beach right after church. That was a process. My mother had to make the sandwiches, pack them, cookies and fruit in the basket then fill the thermos with bug juice and gather the blanket, towels and tee- shirts for us so we wouldn’t get too sun burned. My father packed the car. It was a long ride.

Many Sundays we stayed home. My mother didn’t cook a Sunday dinner because the kitchen would get far too hot; instead, I’d grab a sandwich and some chips if there were any left. My sandwich was usually bologna and yellow cheese with mustard and hot peppers on white bread or Scali bread. For some unknown reason I stayed closer to home on Sundays. Seldom did I go bike riding. That was always on Saturdays when I’d ride all over town.

My Sundays now have no set pattern. I like that. I can do or not do.

“”Twilight drops her curtain down, and pins it with a star.”

May 26, 2018

The day is beautiful, and I’m finding it difficult to believe rain is coming. It is hot by cape standards, 77˚. Tonight it will drop to 55˚, closer to the usual this time of year.

Yesterday morning the sound of a what I thought was a truck woke me up. In that hazy state between awake and asleep, I figured it was the street sweeper clearing the sand from the road, the sand put down during winter snow storms. This morning the same sound woke me up. When I went to get the papers, I saw my lawn had been mowed. It was not a truck I heard. It was the mower which woke me up, disturbed the morning and got me out of bed far too early. I quickly waxed nostalgic about my father and the clicking and clacking of his hand mower. That remains one of my favorite summer sounds.

When I was a young, my neighborhood was filled with kids. Most houses had multiple kids. There were four of us in two waves. My brother and I were a year apart, and I was 5 and 7 years older than my sisters. We, the older two, played games outside like red rover and hide and go seek. I remember our voices seemed to carry through the air, especially in the early evening, sort of at twilight. The seeker counted out loud, and her voice echoed.

I remember sitting on the back steps as it started to get dark. I remember seeing lights go on in the houses behind us. They were all kitchen lights. Once in a while I’d see a neighbor at the window, always a woman. It was the kitchen sink window, and she was doing dishes.

When it got darker, it was time to go inside. The house felt warm compared to the cool night air. The dishes were in the rack right beside the sink. They were air drying. The TV was always on. My father was in the chair by the picture window. My sisters were on the couch. My mother was often in the kitchen sitting at the table. I’d check out what was on TV and then either watch or go upstairs to my room. I’d grab privacy whenever I could. The house was small for the many of us.

“There are mysteries buried in the recesses of every kitchen – every crumb kicked under the floorboard is a hidden memory. But some kitchens are made of more. Some kitchens are everything.”

May 25, 2018

Summer has returned. Today is already warm and sunny with a slight breeze. The pine pollen is starting. I saw a thin film of yellow on my car when I got the papers. I’ll have to keep my windows closed for a while or the pollen will cover every surface in my house. Even the deck gets a layer of pollen so I leave foot prints when I walk.

My backyard is filled with pine trees. Come to find out they have both male and female pine cones. I had no idea pine cones have genders. I never gave thought to the difference in the sizes of the cones. Now I know the smaller cones are the male cones. They produce the pollen. So, if your car is yellow, blame a male.

I did every errand yesterday. It was a triumphant day. I no longer have to skulk around at the dump.

The plumber is here. He has fixed the outside faucet leak and now has to leave to get a part for the shower. He called from his truck. His name is Doug. He saw Maddie and told me he had a cat who lived to be 20. He said he cried when it died. I like Doug.

I remember the small kitchen in the first place we lived in Stoneham. When I close my eyes, I can see the whole room. The door to the yard was on the back wall. To its left was the sink, fridge, stove and counter tops. There was a small window over the sink. To the right of the door was another window and the table and chairs were against that window wall. The kitchen was so small two was a crowd. We lived there until after my sister was born. We then moved down the street to a bigger place, one with 3 bedrooms. Until I bought my own house, that is where I lived for the longest time.

My kitchen has gadgets, things like a strawberry huller, a jalapeño corer, a corn zipper, a mandolin, three different size food processors, a panini grill and a mixer. I have actually used all but the jalapeño corer. That was just bought. It is a funky looking tool.

The only tools I remember my mother using when I was a kid were the hand potato masher, the peeler, the cookie press and her standing mixer. She seldom baked from a package. When I was older, out of college older, I loved working in the kitchen with her. I was her sous chef. My favorite time was around Christmas. We listened to music while we worked. We talked and we laughed. Those are cherished memories kept close to my heart.

“A good snapshot stops a moment from running away.”

May 24, 2018

Yesterday was so lovely my friends and I had dinner on their deck. It was a summer dinner of hot dogs, watermelon and fresh corn. We played Phase 10, but toward the end of the game, the cold wind arrived. We were done. Summer was over.

Last night thunder rumbled then the rain came, a heavy rain at first then just a constant rain of smaller drops. When I fell asleep, it was still raining, but this morning is beautiful though chilly, in the low 60’s.

I have three stops today. I still have to get my dump sticker, the car needs to be inspected and I have PT for my arm.

The only items on my to do list are the dump and then Agway to buy flowers and herbs. The heading on the list is Friday.

When I was in Ghana, an occasional evening treat was a Coke and a Cadbury candy bar. The DPW near my house had a store. It was one of the few places with cold Coke. My favorite Cadbury was the Fruit & Nut Milk Chocolate Bar. I still buy one every now and then just for the memory.

My memory drawers are loaded. I don’t know why some events and people become memories and get saved while others never do and are forgotten as soon as they happen. I remember the plane ride to Ghana. It was a TWA charter. I sat toward the back by the window. I remember we flew over the Cape. When the plane stopped in Madrid to refuel and change the crew, we got out to stretch. I remember the airport. I also remember getting back into my seat and finding the seat belt caught somewhere. I didn’t use it again. I remember looking out and seeing the Sahara. I also remember my first view of Ghana from the window, and I remember landing. I have a mental picture of my first dinner during training at Winneba. The plate was white. The food was mostly green and white. I didn’t eat it.

Each one of those memories is a snapshot, a colorful, vibrant snapshot which doesn’t seem to fade over time so I get to visit those memories over and over. I never tire of seeing them.

“Nothing is ever really lost to us as long as we remember it.”

May 22, 2018

We’re back to cloudy. The rain will arrive later in the day. It is a bit chillier than yesterday but still warmish. After the school buses have come and gone, my neighborhood is quiet until Henry barks. He is so loud he becomes the noise, but he is protecting me, keeping me safe from car doors closing so I don’t mind.

Henry has eaten more holes in my down comforter. The worst part is he only has access to it when he is with me. I figure he waits until I’m asleep then attacks the down. I’ve added sewing to my to-do list.

Yesterday I sat on the deck taking in the warmth. The cardinal couple dropped by to the feeders. There were also chickadees and so many gold finches I lost count. The air was filled with bird songs.

When I was little, I made memories. The school corridor, wider than a river, went on for miles. Nuns were all six foot and muscular, even the old ones. The Five and Ten was magical. Everything you wanted or needed was on one of its shelves. The railroad tracks just kept going and going as far as any of us could imagine, even to China. The woods were filled with adventures. Blueberries grew everywhere. The swamp was the skating rink and the science lab. The Thanksgiving turkey needed two people to lift it out of the oven. The Christmas tree touched the ceiling and filled the living room. All of these I tucked away.

Life is gigantic when you’re little. It’s a surprise wrapped in paper and lots of ribbon. The sun is brighter, the snow deeper and the rain heavier. New still happens. Believing is easy. Santa is real and so are the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny. I know the memories I share may have been tempered by time, but I swear most of them are true, except maybe the one about the nuns. A couple of them might have been five ten.

“We may have different religions, different languages, different colored skin, but we all belong to one human race.”

May 20, 2018

Last night it rained heavily. I could hear it on the roof. I fell asleep to the sound. Today it is supposed to rain again. When I went to get the papers, I was surprised at how warm it is.

Mouse 3 was in the trap this morning. He looked exactly like the other 2. I tried to put the leash on Henry so he could come on the short ride to relocate the mouse. I want to start to get him used to the car, but Henry took off out the dog door. I didn’t chase him; instead, I took the mouse to the car. When I got to a wooded section of the road, I stopped and opened the trap. The mouse didn’t go out. I shook the trap. The mouse stayed. That went on for a while then the mouse jumped out the opening and almost jumped into my car. I was relieved when the wee beastie finally took off into the bush. I’ll reset the trap in a bit.

When I was in Ghana, I had to wear dresses all the time. I didn’t really mind except when getting off or on mammy lorries because I had to climb up on the back to get to and from the seats. Ghana is hot, and in the heat, dresses were cooler than pants would have been. I had to have my dresses made. There were no clothing stores. My seamstress was the wife of a fellow teacher. She lived right next door to me. I’d buy cloth in the market and bring it to her, and she’d make dresses in a variety of designs. Most were without sleeves. My favorite dresses were usually tie-dye. The colors were vibrant. The patterns haphazardly interesting. After paying the market lady and the seamstress, the cost of the dress was usually around 5 cedis, equal to 5 dollars in those days. When I went back to Ghana the first time, I had two shirts made. I forget the cost of the cloth, tie-dye of course, but the shirts were 25 cedis each, around 7 or 8 dollars. They are beautiful.

My memory is one of my favorite places to visit. I go through all those memory drawers for bits and pieces and whole memories. My time in Ghana fills a few drawers. I always think of that as the most amazing experience of my life. I was at home in a place so totally foreign than I had known in all my life before and since. Ghana still feels like home to me.

“Without Saturday, Sunday would just be another day of the week.”

May 19, 2018

I was going to set my alarm so I could watch the wedding. I didn’t, but I did DVR it from the BBC. I’ll watch it later, my finger on fast forward.

It was cold last night. I had forgotten to turn off my heat from the last cold day so I was surprised when I heard the blast of hot air. Today is cloudy again and rain is predicted today and tomorrow.

A male and female cardinal were at the feeders this morning. I watched until both of them flew away. The spawns of Satan haven’t been around the yard. That surprises me. I am delighted.

Henry continues to protect me from car doors slamming. He barks and howls. He is still nervous around other people. He sometimes even shakes. I hold him.

When I was a kid, Duke, our boxer, followed us everywhere. We could never shake him and telling him to stay was useless unless he wanted to stay. He never did. I remember one time my father yelled for him to come as he was following kids to the East School. Duke stopped, looked at my dad and kept going. My father was so furious he sputtered, got in his car and went after Duke. Gracie was like that. She totally ignored me, the screaming maniac. Luckily, though, she’d go to anyone else but me.

I get a hankering for particular food. One day it was fried seafood so I took myself to Dennisport, to the same restaurant I ate at when I was in high school. Another day I got Thai food at a newish restaurant, also in Dennisport. I got my food to go. The other day I had a cheeseburger and fries. I always think of that as an iconic all-American meal.

I just took hamburger out of the freezer. I’m thinking a dinner of meatloaf with mash potatoes and peas, a favorite comfort meal. A bit of shopping is in order as I have no peas or mash potatoes, that would be baby peas and Yukon gold potatoes.

It will be a quiet weekend. I have nothing immediate on any list. There is stuff I could do but I won’t. I don’t have to.

“This world is but a canvas to our imagination.”

May 18, 2018

What a surprise! It is cloudy again, but no rain is predicted. I’ll just have to wait until tomorrow and Sunday for that. It is quite windy. The boughs are bending back and forth. Last night was foggy. I could see the mist in the back house light.

I have set the mouse trap. Crunchy peanut butter is the lure. It has worked twice so far. Lee, when he was vacuuming yesterday, said he saw no mouse poop. I’m not convinced. I found an empty bag in the cabinet. It used to be a bag of pasta, an expensive bag of pasta from the Italian store. At least the mice have good taste.

Last night I made dinner, a dinner dinner according to my sister. She meant it wasn’t a scrounge through the fridge for something easy sort of dinner. I don’t know what came over me. I had steak and rice pilaf. I didn’t have a vegetable because I hadn’t bought any. I do have tomatoes, technically a fruit, and lettuce, both for my BLT sandwiches, but I didn’t think to use them. I have to buy bread today so I’ll buy some fresh veggies as well.

My animals are napping after their hectic morning. Henry went out twice, had breakfast and ran up and down the hall a couple of times. Maddie had some treats, fresh water, and used the puppy pads. Both of them are exhausted.

This week has been boring. I didn’t do much. My back hurt, and that limited my activities. I did watch some TV, finish one book and start another, do laundry, water plants and nap. I didn’t go out yesterday so I still need my dump sticker. I need bread even more so I’ll head out later.

When I was a kid, I was seldom bored. I remember playing in the cellar. One time I was Annie Oakley. I put a blanket on the stair rail at the end of the bannister and pretended I was riding a horse. I’d throw a ball against the wall and play a few innings. I was both teams. That meant I always won. I know it meant I always lost too, but I never saw it that way.  The cellar windows were small. They were in the concrete foundation above the ground. I remember seeing the sun streaming through one window. The stream was filled with dust. It didn’t matter. I didn’t care. My cellar was a wondrous place. It was the Old West, and I was riding Paint, my trusty steed. It was the outfield at Fenway Park, and I had just caught the last out and insured our victory. I heard the cheers of the Fenway faithful. I tipped my cap.

“He could hear rain pattering on the thatch, like a million mice line-dancing.”

May 17, 2018

The rain started yesterday in the early evening. It is still raining. This storm is quiet, quite unlike the storm the night before. That one had thunder and lightning. I was wondering how Henry does in thunder. I found out Henry doesn’t do anything. He heard the clap, looked up at the ceiling, saw nothing and went back to chewing his treat.

My list of errands and chores is down to three from nine. I have one inside and two outside. I need a dump sticker. The other day I had to skulk at the dump because I am late in getting my sticker. If I had been caught skulking, I would have had to pay per bag.

My jaw hurts. I think it is from eating so many Mary Janes. I bought a large package of them. I like the molasses-peanut butter combination. When I was a kid at the Saturday matinee, Mary Janes were always a good choice for my nickel. Back then, I bought my candy based on longevity. Sugar Daddy Pops were another good choice. They took forever to chew. I loved it when I could chew the ends of my pops then pull those ends into long strands with my teeth.

I don’t always cook for myself. Some nights I grab whatever I can find in the fridge. Cheese is my most common go to dinner. To eat with cheese, I keep an assortment of crackers in my oven. Why my oven? It is because mice love my crackers, and the lower cabinet is where the boxes were stored. Mice live in my lower cabinet so I had to move the crackers. I hadn’t space anywhere else except the oven. Luckily, I don’t use the oven too often so moving all the stuff is a temporary pain in the butt.

I  caught another mouse yesterday. It was a twin to the one I had caught the other day. As soon as I noticed it in the trap, I took it for a ride. This one took a while to figure out there was an opening. I shook the trap several times hoping to dislodge the creature. Finally it jumped out and ran into the brush. I have to reset the trap.

I have an empty dance card.

“I look forward to growing old and wise and audacious.”

May 15, 2018

What a surprise! It’s cloudy and damp. Rain is coming later today, but I have to go out anyway. My to-do list is filled with chores and errands which I figure will take me today and tomorrow to complete. One item is I have to fold the second load of laundry. For me, finishing the laundry, which sat so long by the door, is a huge accomplishment. I didn’t even run out of underwear.

Henry has found his voice. He reacts to every outside sound. A car door is his nemesis. He growls then barks then howls. Today he has already saved me from two car doors.

Maddie is deaf. She doesn’t hear Henry’s howls but sleeps through them. Her annoying habit is constantly meowing every time I move. She wants clean water, treats or some pieces of turkey cold cuts, Boar’s head of course. I give in. She is 18 and 1/2 and deserves that I ignore her idiosyncrasy, as annoying as it is.

When I was a kid, I never thought of my parents as old. That was reserved for my grandparents. They looked old and dressed old. My grandfathers on both sides mostly wore suits and fedoras, but when we went to visit my mother’s parents, mostly on Sundays, my grandfather was usually dressed in casual pants and a tee shirt, what we still call a wife-beater. My grandmother never changed her outfit. She was always dressed the same. What I mostly remember is her apron, her nylons rolled close to her ankles and her slippers with the backs down. My father’s parents were seldom informal, but I do remember my grandfather wearing a deep red jacket. It hung below his waist and zippered. I don’t even remember the sort of shirt he wore underneath. I don’t think I ever saw it. My grandmother wore the uniform of old ladies: a flowered dress, clunky black shoes and stockings. She was taller than my grandfather, and the shoes made her even taller. I do remember she also wore an apron around the house. We didn’t visit them often even though they lived in the same town as we did. My father would drop in on a Saturday. She always gave him some candy and cigarettes when he was leaving. I never thought of them as all that hospitable.

When I look around now, the old people are my age, but there is no dress code. We all wear what we want, what’s comfortable. I do own an apron but can’t remember the last time I wore it. It hangs on a hook in the kitchen just in case I need it.