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I’d love to get pajamas. Good, nice and warm flannel ones.”

December 27, 2010

I had every intention of writing this morning, but I thought I’d take a small nap first. Well, that small nap lasted for hours, catch-up time for what had been a rough night. Gracie joined me. She snored, but I was glad for her company so I ignored her and fell asleep anyway.

I could hear today and see it from my window. The wind blew loudly, and I could almost feel the cold. Birds were at the feeders, mostly gold finches, and they flapped their wings against the wind to keep their balance. A nuthatch flew in, took a seed and then flew to a sheltered branch to eat it.

We had a bit of snow, some rain then snow again. I’m guessing we had maybe three or four inches, but the snow blew sideways and drifted in the wind which made an estimate difficult. The wind is still blowing, but the snow has stopped. It is a night to be close to hearth and home.

On days like today I stayed dressed in my flannels and sweatshirt. They keep me warm and cozy. When I was a kid, I wore flannel pajamas every night all winter. I was too old for the footed pj’s so I envied my sisters wearing theirs. On my feet were sock slippers, the new ones I got every Christmas, so my feet stayed warm even without the pj’s. My favorite part of those slippers was the soft leather soles which made a scruffy sound on the floor when you dragged your feet. We used to do it on purpose to drive my mother crazy.

My flannel pajamas were always two parts: a top and bottom. They always had a print and it was usually flowers, not a print I’d choose. The top had buttons and the bottom had an elastic waist. The flowers were small and I swear they were always red. I suspect I got the exact same pair every Christmas for ten years, but I can’t prove it. They wore out quickly as I wore them often and my mother washed them in her wringer machine which was hell on clothes.

My mother was cleaning as I walked in the door after school one day. Right away I recognized the rag she was using to dust and polish the living room furniture. I could barely see the red roses, but I knew that rag had once been part of a set of flannel pajamas.

“God Bless Us Everyone”

December 25, 2010

Piles of colored paper on the floor, shouts of joy and one after the other of us calling to our parents, “Look at this,” as if the toy was as new to them as it was to us. This special morning, Christmas morning, had been so long awaited we thought it would never come. Our lists of preparations were almost as long as Santa’s list. We thumbed through Sears over and over. We circled in pencil the toys we wanted and turned the pages down so we wouldn’t forget when it came time to write to Santa. With quarters and dimes in hand we went up town and shopped for our parents’ presents then wrapped the gifts we had so carefully chosen. On each gift there was enough paper and tape for ten more gifts. We aggravated my poor mother when we threw tinsel on the tree. Our decorated cookies were works of art. We were as good as we could be.

And it came to pass in those days, that there went out a decree from Caesar Augustus, that all the world should be taxed.
(And this taxing was first made with Cyrenius was governor of Syria.)
And all went to be taxed, every one into his own city.
And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea, unto the city of David, which is called Bethlehem; (because he was of the house and lineage of David)
To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife, being great with child.

And so it was, that while they were there, the days were accomplished that she should be delivered. And she brought forth her firstborn son, and wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him a manger; because there was no room for them in the inn. Christmas is also a birthday celebrated with angels, sheep, donkeys and a camel or two. It was in a manger and a star pointed the way.

“Alas! How dreary would be the world if there was no Santa Claus!… There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence.”

December 24, 2010

I remember being giddy every Christmas Eve. The minutes passed like hours. By four o’clock I was ready for bed figuring the earlier I went to bed the sooner Santa would come. I had nothing to do all day so I paced a lot, read for about two minutes, looked out the window hoping to see a snowflake and shook the few wrapped packages under the tree. The pajamas were easy to guess. Each of the other packages sported a small hole on the side where my sister Moe had peeked. She made the hole small hoping no one would notice. We all did. I wanted to be surprised so I used every bit of the restraint in my young body not to look.The wrapped packages were from my parents. Every Christmas Eve my mother would tell us we could open one, and we’d run to pick out the package, but she’d hand a package to each of us. We’d groan and moan because we knew it was new pajamas. It always was. I figured my mother wanted us looking good for the morning pictures. We’d complain and ask to open a different one, but that was a battle we never won.

This was one night my mother never had to argue with us about our bedtime. First we’d hang up our stockings on the banister. We didn’t have a fireplace but long ago my mother had explained that Santa could get into every house, and we believed her. After all, Christmas is magic. The stockings were hung by age so mine was at the top. My stocking was an old one my mother had bought when I was toddler. It has since disappeared, but I remember it well. It had silver glitter and my name was written in black across the cuff. When I was much older, I thought the stocking small. When I was young, it seemed to hold a million surprises.

We’d get into bed but falling asleep took forever. We’d talk across the hall to one another trying to guess what Santa might leave for us. My mother or father would yell up the stairs and tell us to go to sleep. They always reminded us Santa wouldn’t come if we were awake, but sleep evaded us for the longest time. I don’t ever remember falling asleep. I only remember waking up and hurrying down the stairs on Christmas morning.

Don’t forget to leave out the cookies and milk!

“When snow falls, nature listens.”

December 21, 2010

I couldn’t take it anymore. A few days ago I grabbed my trusty cane and went upstairs. The shower was heavenly, and I emerged prunish on every part of my body. Yesterday I paid the price, a smaller price than I’d paid before but a price nonetheless. I ended up with a very achy leg which woke me up the last two nights and also made sitting difficult. Today I am much better. I did learn one lesson. A day of pain is well worth a shower.

Cape Cod is now a winter wonderland. We have around 8 inches of snow. The prediction was for a dusting, but predictions are subject to human error, and this storm is the perfect example. It just kept snowing and snowing.

I love watching the snow fall so I limped my way to the door several times and turned on the light so I could watch the flakes. They glimmered and shined in the light. It was magical.

When I was young, a snowstorm was a gift. If it meant no school, that was a bonus, but we didn’t care all that much. It was the snow which mattered. We knew the afternoons would be spent sledding or having snowball fights and staying outside until our lips were blue from the cold. I remember my mittens had clumps of snow which hung there until the mittens dried on the cellar line. I remember how red my legs were when I went inside and changed into something warm. I also remember it took a long while before my feet got any feeling back, but we didn’t care or even notice. Only the joy of an afternoon playing in the snow mattered.

We were always exhausted and went to bed early without complaining. I think I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow. I bet there was always a smile on my face.

“When we recall Christmas past, we usually find that the simplest things – not the great occasions – give off the greatest glow of happiness.”

December 19, 2010

I lost a day this week. I think it was Tuesday. I was shocked to find Sunday papers this morning. The pain killers have been gone all week so I guess I have only myself to blame. I hope this losing a day thing isn’t a trend.

Yesterday I didn’t use my walker all day long. I limped and walked a bit bent, but I survived the day. This morning the pain woke me up, but I put my foot down, proverbially would work here too, and managed to massage most of the pain away. Undaunted, I made my way to the kitchen still walkerless. It hurt but it hurt less than I expected. I think I’m well on my way down the yellow brick road.

The smoke detector is chirping, and I can’t reach it. I have a good step ladder, but this is not the time. I’d probably break my leg, my good leg. Ordinarily I’d have yanked my hair out by now from the constant chirping, but I decided to think of the chirping as a bird’s song, a Christmas bird. Okay, I admit it. I must be losing my mind. What is that? A Christmas bird? Come on! Start complaining, even cursing! I swear ( the nice one, the oath one, not my usual) I must have been hypnotized by all those Hallmark movies.

Some family pictures I have are from Christmas 1953, the year I was six. In one of the pictures, I was innocently playing with the doll I had gotten (I think it was a Ginny Doll) while my brother was shooting me in the back with the gun he’d gotten for Christmas (High Noon would be a great song for this portion), and he’s wearing his gun belt, over his pajamas. My mother is dressed to the nines as this was not long after midnight mass. This early opening happened for many years as my grandparents always wanted to be there when we opened our presents. Later, when I was older, I wondered why they just didn’t come in the morning. Maybe they preferred us almost comatose from sleep (editorial comment).

It was torture to see my toys, play with them a while then be sent back to bed. I can’t imagine how long it took me to go back to sleep. I know I sneaked downstairs quite a few times and played with my toys until it was light outside then I’d sneak back to bed and happily fall asleep.

“It is the middle of December. The nights are longer, the weather is colder, winter comes.”

December 18, 2010

I have learned so much since the surgery I figured I’d share as none of my hard earned knowledge should ever go to waste. At first, as I was lying on the couch moaning periodically, I thought about a pamphlet or a novelette but decided my blog will have to do as the other choices seemed just too complicated. We’ll have to call this blog entry “If you find yourself, sick, disabled or otherwise incapacitated, read this.”

Just in case you’re handed a walker and sent on your way, I have a few walker helps and hints. A walker most decidedly has its advantages but getting around a house furnished for two feet makes it difficult. My walker has gotten caught on chairs, the legs of tables, a laundry bag, the butcher block and a couple of open doors. Right away I learned to close one arm of the walker so I could get around those spots. Of course, the directions tell you never to do that. I, always the rebel, did it anyway, and it worked and I was able to maneuver. A couple of times I had to wash some lounge pants as my laundry bag was filled. The walker was a great substitute for a clothes line. It also serves as an ottoman if the need rises. Right now, mine is a linen closet adjunct holding a quilt.

The worst part of being a bit disabled is getting to the bathroom. I wished I could plan my trips ahead of time. I figured an e-mail saying get up because in five minutes you’ll have to go to the bathroom wouldn’t take much and seems quite thoughtful. No, that never happens, and I ran though I don’t think using a walker can really be called running. A few times I breathed a sigh of relief at crossing the finish line just in time. Now, I stop at the bathroom on the way to the kitchen whether I need to or not. That’s my version of an e-mail.

Always have a straw which can be bent. The advantage is obvious. The disadvantages are wet and uncomfortable.

One of those grab things is a must. I used it constantly. It seemed everything I wanted was at the wrong end of the table or maybe I was. I’m not quite sure which. I used it to grab and slide stuff. Anything which fell on the floor would have stayed there without my grabber. Using it to tease people, though, is not a good idea.

Get into bed (the couch in my case) before the dog. Mine likes to be comfy and takes and arranges most of the covers in her quest. When I’m first in bed, she just has to make do.

Keep cookies handy. Sweets are one of the best remedies. I swear aches went away when I ate a star sugar cookie frosted in light purple, but I’m not sure the shape or color matters. It’s the magic of the cookie.

Today is the best day I’ve had so far. They started me on a new medication, and it seems to be working. I haven’t used my walker this morning and I’m still fine. Earlier, I was given a gift of wonder. I walked from the kitchen with my cup of coffee without dragging along my walker and no drops of coffee poker dotted the floor.

Last night I fell asleep really early with the TV, lights and computer on. I was even still wearing my glasses. I think it was a Hallmark movie which put me out. When I woke up it was a round 1 am. That was a long nap for me so I looked around for something to do. I chose a TV program with lots of blood and gore, grabbed a cup of coffee, took my pills and started a jigsaw puzzle. I was up for hours. It was almost light when I fell back to sleep. A phone call woke me around noon.

The pains are less, and I seldom yelp. I don’t seem to need the walker though I do limp a bit. I even went out on the deck a little while ago so I could do a weather report. It’s not so pretty a day, but I don’t care. I will appreciate all of today. I’m hoping for a parade later!

“Christmas is the day that holds all time together.”

December 16, 2010

I wish I could tell you I had been whisked away to foreign lands on a magic carpet and had no access to the internet as we flew over exotic places, but, instead, I have been prone on the couch mostly sleeping. This week was one of those couple of steps forward and a million steps backward weeks, but last night changed everything. I slept through the whole night. Today I can almost click my heels into the air. Okay, that is an exaggeration, but I do feel really good, and I was able to move off the couch almost as if my body didn’t ache at all. I’m sitting here typing with a big grin on my face. I guess it’s an early Christmas present.

Everyone who drops by to visit talks about the cold. I’m missing all that, and I’m not at all regretful. My house is warm and cozy. From my window here, I can see the birds at the feeders, and I can see the oak trees beside the deck. They are winter with their dead leaves hanging off the ends of the branches. The sun is out but has that icy cold look, that mocking look it gets in winter. The weatherman says maybe snow on Sunday or Monday. I don’t doubt him.

My Christmas cards arrived so I can address them this afternoon. That calls for a syrupy Hallmark movie. I didn’t any yesterday, and I’m having a sugar withdrawal.

Around this time of year, my mother would start to tease us with her, “I know what you’re getting for Christmas,” comments. When I was little, I said she didn’t know, but she told me Santa had left a note  so she knew. I believed her. When I was older, she was relentless, and I’d always ask for hints. Her favorite answer was to say it was something I really wanted and didn’t have, as if that were a hint at all. I seldom gave her lists so most years I was always surprised.

My mother used to find the perfect gits for us all. They were the ones we’d have asked for if we had given the lists any thought at all. She found a Mouskeeteer lunch box for me one year, and they were my Mouskeeteers. Another year she found the first Trixie Belden and put it in my stocking. I was ten again when I saw it.

My mother always knew that Christmas was old and it was new. She gave that gift to us, and it was her best gift of all.

“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.”

December 12, 2010

Today is a rainy, dark day. Even Gracie is staying inside. Yesterday was my best day so far. Last night was the worst night, and I was up for hours until the pain killers sent the sciatica packing so I could sleep. That was around 7. My guess was the sciatica gremlin wasn’t too pleased with the wonderful day I had. I feel okay now though I am sitting about four feet in the air on a pouffe so I can be comfortable.

The post is short today. I need to be back on the couch so I can be more comfortable. My mother used to say only the good suffer. I figure I must be goodness incarnate!

“Like snowflakes, my Christmas memories gather and dance – each beautiful, unique and too soon gone.”

December 11, 2010

The sun is shining, and Miss Gracie is spending time outside so I’m guessing it’s a warmer day. As for me, it’s a better day. My moans and groans are quieter, and I made a pot of coffee, carried it in a thermos to the table and read the papers. I even did the crossword puzzles.

The science fiction channel is having a countdown to Christmas. Their current offering is about an ice monster who uses icicles to impale and freeze people. I figure at least the monster ought to be sporting a bit of mistletoe.

When I was a kid, our tree fell a few times. The crash I remember most was one night when my parents were out grocery shopping. My brother and I were watching television when we heard behind us the whoosh of branches and the sounds of glass ornaments breaking as the tree fell. It was too late to catch it so we lifted the tree and then took turns holding it up at the trunk until my parents came home. We weren’t very old so the thought of tying the tree never occurred to us. When my dad came home, he hammered a couple of nails into the top parts of the windows and then tied both sides of the tree. Every year after that, he tied the tree as a precaution. In my mind’s eye, every tree at that house from then on had a string on each side from the trunk to the window.

My mother was the decorator. My father believed in expediency. His two jobs were to put the tree in the stand and then put on the lights. His lights were always a tangled mess from the year before, and in the old days, he cursed a bit trying to find the one bulb preventing all the others from lighting. The bulbs were huge in those days, and the trees were always bright. Most nights, just after we’d turn on the tree lights, I ‘d sit a while and just stare at the tree loving the color and how all the ornaments shined in the light. I still like to do that.

“Some called it a thorn bush. We called it our Christmas tree.”

December 10, 2010

Old man winter has raised his hoary little head, at least that’s what I’m told. It seems everyone who drops by starts off the conversation by saying how cold it is. I, dressed in socks, slippers, flannels and a sweatshirt, try my best to look sympathetic. I admit, though, when I look outside, I swear I can see the cold.

The banging has stopped. The house is all shingled. Yesterday Rosana and Lee, my cleaning people and my friends, came to put the house to rights. I had asked them to give me more time, and they were wonderful. Thanksgiving is finally gone, packed away until next year. Everything is back on the walls. The dirt from the shinglers’ boots is gone, and my kitchen sparkles. So do I.

The pain doesn’t make me scream anymore. Now I just ahh, ouch, moan and occasionally drop an expletive. I know a day of activity, such as yesterday, will make the next day a difficult one. That’s today, but I’m careful and following the half hour rule. With fingers wishfully crossed I’m hoping that I’m making progress. I figure not scaring the birds from the trees is a good sign.

Everyone always had live trees when I was a kid. The only artificial trees back then were the ones I saw in magazines. They had widely spaced white tinsel branches and a round disc of colored lights rotated in front to give the trees the colors they lacked. I think they were supposed to be avant-garde, and a black cocktail dress with a pouffy bottom half was part of the dress code if you wanted to sit near the tree. All of us, my friends, my sisters and I, still prefer live trees. The house needs to smell of fir. The lights and decorations on the tree glow and shine and seem to warm the winter nights.

My parents often couldn’t agreed on a tree. My dad preferred a cheaper tree which always had gaps between the branches. My mother wanted the perfect tree. When I was little, it didn’t matter to me. I just wanted the tree. Besides, we always found something to fill the gaps. I remember we had a cardboard Santa drinking a coke, and it always hung down and hid a good portion of the gap.

A friend told me no tree should be more than $15.00, and he knew how to solve the gap problem. He’d cut off most of the back branches, drill holes in the front part of the trunk and then he’d put the back branches in the front holes. The tree went in a corner. It always looked full and beautiful.

My trees never have gaps, and they are as tall as my room. My mother taught me that.