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“My second favorite household chore is ironing. My first being hitting my head on the top bunk bed until I faint.”

August 31, 2010

Today I want to conjure the spirit of Mr. Rogers so he can sing It’s a Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood because it most decidedly is. A breeze, ever so slight, keeps the sun at bay and makes the deck the perfect spot to spend the day. I do have a few errands, but they shouldn’t take more than an hour then it’s back to the deck.

When I was a kid, I walked to school because my father left early every day to go to work. Most families back then only had that one car, the one our fathers drove, so we all walked. My mother didn’t even learn to drive until she was in her late 30’s. The walk wasn’t a long one and in the fall and spring was a pretty walk on sidewalks shaded by towering trees. Rainy days were the worst for walking. I never carried an umbrella so I always got soaked. My shoes got the worst. As I walked, they sometimes bubbled at the seams from all the water.

Changing into play clothes was the very first thing I always did when I got home from school. On rainy days, my mother would hang up my wet skirt, my uniform skirt, as I only had one. She’d let it dry a bit then iron it while it was still damp. My mother always ironed the clothes when they were slightly damp. It was the easiest way to iron out all the creases.

I sometimes watched my mother iron. She used to take the clothes, sprinkle water on them from a bottle of water with a perforated top she used to keep by the ironing board then fold them and put them in a basket to dampen. This was before steam irons so my mother sort of made her own steam with the water.

At my surprise house warming thirty odd years ago, someone gave me a steam iron as a gift. I still have it. I also have a plastic spray bottle, a descendant of  my mother’s glass bottle. I used it to spray the creases.

“After a visit to the beach, it’s hard to believe that we live in a material world.”

August 30, 2010

The weather says heat is on its way, 80’s for the next few days. I guess the dog days of August have made it just under the wire. Schools around here start next week. The paper listed their start days this morning. That always meant the end of summer for me, but I never really minded. My favorite time of year was coming.

During summers, when I was growing up, meals were haphazard. We were always coming and going, even to being outside after the streetlights went on. Dinners were simple, usually hot dogs or hamburgers, corn on the cob, popsicles and every now and then my mother’s famous peppers and eggs. We were never a green salad family. My mother made potato salad. My father loved homegrown tomatoes, and he used to cut one up, put the slices on a plate, add a spoonful of mayonnaise for dipping and have it as a side dish at dinner. We kids ate as quickly as we could so we could get back outside. Sunday family dinners were put off until cooler weather.

We spent countless weekends at the beach. The picnic basket was always filled with sandwiches, fruit and cookies. The tartan jug held bug juice. My mother seldom ventured off the blanket. She’d sit and watch my sisters. My brother and I roamed. My father swam in the cold water while my brother and I waited until low tide so we could swim in the warmer, tide pools. I remember walking on the rippled sand to get to the deep pool. The houses across from the beach were huge, and I always wished I could live in one of them and wake up every day to hear the gulls and see the water. My mother used to get annoyed if we tracked sand on the blanket. I remember a wet bathing suit, a towel around my shoulders, my butt on the blanket and my legs and feet in the sand. The last bites of food always tasted gritty.

“She had heard someone say something about an Independent Labour Party, and was furious that she had not been asked.”

August 29, 2010

I wonder where she is. It is far later than usual.

Well, I partied last night, and I partied well so I had a sleep-in morning and I needed to give my system extra time to recover. The cocktail party was wonderful. The food was spectacular. My favorite was the barbecued shrimp, but the lobster rolls were a close second. The music was great. I told them they could play whatever they wanted, and they chose well. The bartender kept an eye on my glass and refilled it frequently. The guests chatted away, ate enough for an army and had a great time. I hired someone to do the clean-up so today I all have to do is put the stuff away. It was a one-time spare no expense party, and it was perfect.

The day is again beautiful. I have plans to take over Gracie’s lounge chair and nap on the deck as it’s so quiet outside: no lawnmowers, no screaming kids and not a single barking dog.

I can tell I’m getting old. I can remember partying all night into the next day when I was in college. We did that most weekends and every now and then we partied on a weeknight. Back then I drank cheap wine, most of us did. We couldn’t afford much better. The wine came in screw top bottles. If we bought any food at all, it was potato chips. If we got really hungry we went out, usually around 2 in the morning, to our favorite dive, a small diner, a greasy spoon of a diner. It was open all night which was its main attraction. We’d pile into cars and head into Lawrence. The cook was the owner, and he always wore the same dirty apron, but we didn’t care. We had just partied all night.

“Premature burial works just fine as a cure for adolescence.”

August 28, 2010

The sun is warm and bright. The sky is blue from front to back and top to bottom. From my window here in the den, I can see the top branches of the huge oak tree. The sunshine glints on its leaves and highlights every vein and stem. Gracie and I have already been outside just standing on the deck and taking in the morning.

I don’t remember exactly how old I was when Saturday morning television was no longer an incentive to hurry out of bed, get my breakfast, my cereal and milk, and plunk down in front of the TV. Howdy and Sky and Boris and Natasha had been replaced for sleeping-in. My life was changing, and I didn’t really notice. Changes sometimes happen that way. Their arrival is subtle. All of a sudden clothes became important. Saturday matinees were for kids. I didn’t want to go anywhere with my family. My parents didn’t understand me. My room became my refuge. I didn’t have to be sent there anymore. I went willingly, gladly. I was an adolescent.

My mind is quick, and I have a history of wonderfully clever comments. They started jumping out of my mouth about the same time I began my adolescence. My father was often my straight man. He made comments which begged for a response, and I could seldom resist. Sometimes he’d ask questions, rhetorical to him, fodder for me. My favorite was, “What do you think you’re doing?” Never once was he happy with my answers, but I loved each and every one of them and would have grinned at my cleverness, but that would have been way over the top.

It wasn’t until I went to college that we reached an understanding, a truce of sorts.

“At a dinner party one should eat wisely but not too well, and talk well but not too wisely”

August 27, 2010

Another gorgeous day, both sunny and cool, not a bit of humidity. With the gala so close, tomorrow night, I have a filled flow chart of tasks for both today and tomorrow. Today is mostly errands.

We never went anywhere fancy when I was a kid. Most places where we ate had paper napkins. The place settings were a fork, knife and spoon. More than those would have been confusing. It was in Africa when I first encountered multiple forks, linen napkins and serving men wearing white jackets. I was totally out of my element. The event was a luncheon in Bolga for the newly elected Prime Minister, Kofi Busia. I was invited because I was one of the few white people in town, and I always got invited to events at Government House. A formal, embossed, printed invitation was always sent, usually for cocktail parties which I seldom attended. This was the first luncheon ever held as far as I knew. The tables were covered in white linen. Multiple glasses and utensils were beside and around each of  the plates. The waiters wore starched white jackets and had white towels hung over their arms. The Ghanaian women were dressed formally in beautifully colored fabrics. Their dresses were layered with a top, an ankle length skirt and a matching cloth wrapped around the skirt part of the dress. The men wore suits or kente, a traditional Ghanaian hand woven cloth. The kente was worn wrapped around the body with one shoulder uncovered. I was most decidedly under-dressed in my one layer Ghanaian cloth dress and sandals. I tried to stay in the background which was difficult as everyone else was Ghanaian. I shook several hands, took my seat, politely chatted with the guests on each side of me, put the napkin on my lap, took my forks from the outside in and listened to the speakers, especially Mr. Busia, whom I’d heard once before in Bawku when he was campaigning.

The luncheon broke up after his speech, and as Mr. Busia was leaving, he shook a few hands including mine. I smiled and said nothing. Mr. Busia then moved on and out of the room.

That whole event seemed surreal. I, Miss Paper Napkin, had dined with the Prime Minister. It was the most uncomfortable I ever was at any event I attended in Ghana, but I don’t think anybody else noticed. I suspect most guests felt the way I did and were too busy figuring out all those forks. Ghanaians most often ate with their hands. I always liked that, the sharing of a meal with all of us sitting around the dinner pot chatting and laughing.

Cherry Tree: Louise Taylor

August 26, 2010

You'd have to go back to 2000 and Written in Red to find this song.

“Mosquitoes remind us that we are not as high up on the food chain as we think.”

August 26, 2010

A sunny day with little humidity and a breeze is what all that rain kindly left for us today. I headed out to the deck with my papers and coffee, saw the feeders were empty and filled them. The morning is always brighter when the birds keep me company. When I sat down, I noticed my umbrella’s power in light indicator wasn’t lit. My first impulse was to jump up and find out why, but I restrained myself and finished the first paper and first cup of coffee. After that the fun began. I went under the deck, checked and found the umbrella cord was connected to power. I then try to determine if it was the umbrella adapter, the outlet or the extension cord which wasn’t working. That meant plugging the extension cord into another outlet. The only one available was off the outside of the deck. I got on my hands and knees and tried to plug in the cord, a lovely yellow one, but couldn’t figure out in which direction the prongs needed to go. I then went down the stairs, looked up and hoped I could see the outlet. I couldn’t. A dilemma. My solution was simple. I balanced one flip flop clad foot on the end off the stair rail, used one hand to hold on to a part of the deck rail and hoisted myself high enough to see the outlet. While I was up high, I was able to plug in the extension cord then went back under the deck to make sure all the plugs were attached. The extension cord, underneath the deck, spanned from one side of the deck to the other and was so tightly strung that I wanted to cue the music for the Limbo as I had to go under the cord. Back up on the deck to check the umbrella, I touched my face and found blood then touched it again to find the injury. In the process, I managed to squash a mosquito in the midst of removing my life’s fluid. That was the only injury of the entire enterprise. The umbrella is now connected.

I got my second cup of coffee and read the paper. I was tired and sweaty, but I had no cuts, sprains or broken bones, an unusual occurrence for me.

“Let’s Give A Rousing Cheer…”

August 24, 2010

An early morning meeting and a trip to the library has put me behind my time for which I apologize. Usually by eleven I’m finished writing and lolling on the lounge with my bon bons.

The skies opened and a deluge fell all of yesterday and last night. The wind howled and even overturned the umbrella stuck in a fifty pound stand. I had guests for dinner last night but, “The best laid schemes o’ Mice an’ Men, Gang aft agley.” There I was holding my umbrella and trying to watch the meat as it barbecued, a tricky maneuver as I was cooking a rare, a medium and a well-done. On one of my check the meat trips I literally did, trip I mean. My flip flops skidded and I hit the deck, uninjured but soaked. After that I forwent the umbrella. The meat cooked perfectly, but I was soaked, necessitating a change of clothes. For the next dinner, I’m checking the weather before I make out my menu.

It is still raining with a dampness which chills to the bones so most of my windows are closed. According to the paper, the sun won’t be back until Thursday, and the forecast  for Saturday is a good one, perfect for a deck party.

Edward Kean has died at age 85. His name is probably not familiar but his music is. Mr. Kean wrote the theme song It’s Howdy Doody Time to which I still remember all of the words and would sing along if Buffalo Bob appeared miraculously on Saturday morning television in black and white and asked, “What time is it, kids?”

I always find it amazing what sticks in my head, and I’m guessing a lot of yours too.

“The cocktail party has a simple function in modern society. Its basic purpose is to pay off social debts.”

August 23, 2010

Today is cold and rainy. I even had to close a couple of windows. Last night a heavy wind was the opening act for this rain which didn’t start until after I’d gone to bed but has been steady ever since. Tonight I have company coming for dinner, and we’ll have to eat inside, and they’ll miss the loveliness of an evening on the deck. I took an inside shower this morning, the first inside one since early June.

Today isn’t like a summer rain, the sort which falls gently and cools the day a bit. It feels more like an autumn rain with a hint of the colder weather to come. When I was a kid, my mother used to make us stay in on rainy, chilly summer days like today. I never minded. It was always a favorite sort of day when I could nestle under the covers with my bed lamp lit over my head and a good book in my hand. Most times I wasn’t bothered. My little sisters often played in the cellar with their dolls and doll carriages, and I don’t remember where my brother went. I got to be alone with my book.

This is a busy week for me. The last plays are this week for both my Wednesday and Friday theaters, and on Saturday I’m having a cocktail party. I know it sounds really fiftyish, even to me. I picture women in puffy skirted dresses and men in suits and ties all carrying martini glasses complete with olives on toothpicks. The table has several cheese balls, some covered in nuts, and a variety of chaffing dishes. I think one must have cocktail franks and maybe another has Swedish meatballs. Is that a fancy jelly mold with suspended fruit on a plate beside the cheese ball? I can even picture the groups of men standing and the women sitting. Most are smoking. The men discuss sports and the women discuss their kids and maybe even other women.

That is not my party. Dress is casual, and there won’t be a single cheese ball or cocktail frank.

“All the Venables sat at Sunday dinner”

August 22, 2010

Outside, in the damp, cool morning I was comfortable wearing a sweatshirt, and I thought the weather perfect for hot coffee. During any break from reading the papers, I watched both the usual backyard morning antics and a few new ones. The birds were constant, mostly tufted titmice, but the chickadees too came, and I noticed a second downy woodpecker. I always there was only one. The antics were performed by a couple of gray squirrels. They are building a nest  for the winter. Each, in turn, would chew off and carry away a small branch. I had followed them with my eyes as they carried the branches to the top part of the tree and was able to find their nest. One squirrel, during his turn at the branches, hung by his feet and swung back and forth until his front paws grabbed the branch and then he pulled it free and ran up the trunk of the tree. I decided to start taking pictures of their antics so I came inside to get my camera, my telephoto lens, the phone, just in case I get a call, a second newspaper and another cup of coffee. The lens and the phone got stuffed into the sweatshirt pouch, and I managed to juggle everything else. I opened the door with my elbow, stepped onto the deck and found out it was raining. I walked back inside. put away the camera, the lens and the phone then sat down to read the paper. I miss being on the deck.

I now have no plans for the day. On a rainy day the roads are filled with tourists so I’ll be content staying home. It will be like a Sunday when I was a kid, a quiet day almost like a whisper.

Saturday was the favorite day of the week: no school, Saturday morning television and a matinee at one. Friday was a big day, the end of the school week, which made getting up and going to school a bit more tolerable. Monday was, of course, the worst day, the inescapable start of the school week. Sunday was different than all the rest. It meant church clothes, mass and staying around for the family dinner. It always seemed a formal day. Today feels a bit like that.