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“We are indeed much more than what we eat, but what we eat can nevertheless help us to be much more than what we are.”

March 4, 2011

When the sun is bright, I am easily duped into thinking the day is warm. It isn’t, but I’ll accept being easily duped. Looks like the birds need their feeders filled. I’ll bundle up a bit later and go out on the deck with my bag of sunflower seeds.

Tonight is chili night while we watch The Amazing Race from last Sunday when we watched the Oscars instead. The chili is cooking and will cook all day long. I’ve  some corn bread and toppings to serve with it. I haven’t made my guacamole yet and won’t until just before my friends come. The only thing left is the dessert, and I have no idea what we’ll be having yet.

Italian and Chinese were the most exotic foods my mother served us. That was a good thing as we probably would have turned our noses up at most other foods. She started us out with American chop suey, not at all related to its Chinese cousin, but it was her way of sneaking bean sprouts into our diet. Later we’d order out at the China Moon. It was until my two years in Africa that I was introduced to all sorts of exotic, strange foods.

I ate Indian food at the Maharajah. It was near High Street and was on the top floor of a retail building. The walls went only halfway up so we could hear the hustle and bustle from the street below us. We sat on cushions, and I thought the restaurant was the most one exotic one I’d ever seen. There were lots of red cushions and curtains and tassels. I don’t even remember what I ate, but I must have enjoyed it as I still like Indian food. Hummus, tabbouleh and falafel were next, and it was a good thing I didn’t know anything about them because the mere mention of chickpeas would have put me off. I still like my hummus the way it was served at Tahal’s in Accra: a ring of hummus on a flat plate with sesame oil in the middle and red pepper in a ring around the outside of the hummus.

I ate food from the street vendors. Lots of times I didn’t know what I was eating, and I knew not to ask. I decided if it tasted good, that was enough. I have made Ghanaian food here for my friends to taste, but that was a long time ago. I am hankering for some kelewele and jollof rice. Maybe that will be my next offering. Luckily my friends are adventurous and will try most anything. They too have learned not to ask what is in any dish I serve.

“To myself I am only a child playing on the beach, while vast oceans of truth lie undiscovered before me.”

March 3, 2011

The sun is shining, the sky is blue and the temperature is 22°. Tonight we’ll dip to 13°. I’ve had enough. I’m asking for only one day of warmth, deck weather warmth. That would hold me for a while.

Two of my travel magazines arrived in the mail this week. Their pages were filled with advertisements showing pictures of people enjoying the beaches of some tropical isle surrounded by water so blue it didn’t look real. All along the seaside were houses painted in bright colors and market wagons selling baskets and vibrant clothing trimmed in reds and blues. I felt like one of Pavlov’s dogs.

We played our weekly trivia game last night at the Squire in Chatham. It is a fun night we look forward to every week. We have dinner, a few drinks, a lot of laughs and a few friendly arguments over possible answers. Generally we’re in contention every week. Two weeks ago we won, last week we were third and even though our team was smaller than usual last night, only four of us, we won again. Other than the first round, we were ahead all night. We won a $50.00 certificate to the Squire and bragging rights for the week.

When I read the paper or do crossword puzzles, I see potential trivia questions. On Sunday, the capital of the gem state and the first chimpanzee in space were two of the crossword puzzle answers. I knew neither but figured them out from the clues around them. I won’t forget them now, and I won’t tell you either.

We used to play Jeopardy. One of us would be Alex giving the answers while the rest of  us were the contestants with clickers instead of buttons. That worked for only a little while. My father was a clicking maniac and often answered even though he hadn’t clicked first. He drove us all so crazy we got rid of the clickers, and Jeopardy became a pencil and paper game. We still had fun.

“Spring, summer, and fall fill us with hope; winter alone reminds us of the human condition.”

March 1, 2011

This is my latest post ever, but I had a busy morning then I had to do some errands and then I needed to rest up from the morning drudgery. The sun is still among the missing. I saw my doctor today for my annual physical, and she put me on vitamin D pills; instead, I should wear one of those light hats the people in Northern Exposure wore during the winter to stave off SAD. I’m beginning to envy the bears who sleep through the cold, sunless days of winter though I have noticed the days stay lighter longer now. That helps to lift a bit of the pall of winter. I know that better days are coming, but I’m impatient.

The birds were back in full force this morning. I watched them for a while and was glad to see my chickadees. Their usual spots had been usurped by the goldfinches. All four feeders were busy. Only one spawn of Satan dropped by, and he didn’t have any luck. I had left a few seeds on the deck, but the spawn missed them.

Other than school days in winter when it was too dark or cold, we used to play outside all the time. We had this boundless energy from being cooped up all day in a classroom, and my mother was forever shooing us out the door. She wanted peace and quiet, and it didn’t include us. My younger sisters stayed closer to home. Often they played dolls on the back steps. I was on my bike roaming or playing games with kids in the neighborhood. We played red light, hide and seek, kick ball, tag and red rover and so many more I don’t remember. We never needed much equipment, just a ball would do for most games.

My neighborhood was teeming with kids of every age. It was quiet only at night after bedtime. In winter a barking dog might break the silence of the night, but in summer you could hear TV’s from the neighbors’ living rooms and people talking. I still remember lying in bed and falling asleep to the murmur of voices. It was a comforting sound.

“This man used to go to school with his dog. Then they were separated. His dog graduated!”

February 28, 2011

Wow, another day of rain and another wind advisory. Luckily it is fairly warm at 44° or I’d be moaning about snow. I took a leisurely morning. The laundry got as far as down here by the cellar door but hasn’t yet made it to the washer. I’ll put it on the list. Something about not liking Mondays has stayed in my psyche even though I no longer work.

All of my animals are sleeping. They seem to be afflicted with the same lack of ambition I have. A succession of rainy days has sapped my energy. I miss the sun. It isn’t warm this time of year, but it is bright. It lightens my mood. The gray skies, the waving branches and the rain are fine for a day or two but I’ve had enough. Poor Noah must have needed anti-depressants.

After my daily weather report, I found myself glumly staring out the window hoping for an inspiration. Nary a one popped into my head until I remembered being in the fourth grade staring out the window at the rain which then led me to remember being in the eighth grade where I also had a seat by the window. My eighth grade nun was so old she nodded off once in a while and noticed little that was going on in the class. My classmates and I took full advantage. What kids wouldn’t? Beside my desk was a bookcase below the window casing. I used to hide my transistor radio there, plug in the ear piece and listen to music. Once I got called on and had no idea what I was being asked. The nun caught me taking out the earpiece, decided I was deaf and spoke loudly when she repeated the question. That shelf was also where I kept snacks for eating during the day. Some days I’d leave for lunch with a friend and come back an hour or two late and tell her I was at the library or the rectory and she’d smile and tell me to be seated. She never noticed I always brought my lunch. Other days I’d leave early telling her I had an appointment or had to do school work at the town library. She’d let me go. She used to eat candy bars she’d hidden in her drawer. Her hand would cover her mouth for a bit, and after she’d removed it, the chewing started. Once she spit nuts on a paper I was showing her. She taught every subject to us, but the best class was music. She had a round metal pitch pipe and would blow it to give us the key then she’d start off singing. She had the worst voice which trembled when she sang. We all joined right with an exuberance bordering on laughter, but we were careful not to laugh right at her or have her see us. She knew anyway and used to say, “When you graduate, I’m going to write on the board in the largest letters, Thank God they are gone.” She said we were the devil’s spawn. Some days I think she was right.

“Miles and miles of nothing but miles and miles”

February 27, 2011

Today is ditto the weather of the last few days: cold and damp with a dusting of snow.  February is just not a pleasant month, and I’ll be glad to see it leave tomorrow. March gives me a little hope. It makes me think warmer weather is on its way. I’m probably delusional.

I do think the cold is easier to deal with than the heat. I can put on heavier socks, matching or not, a sweatshirt, turn the thermostat up just a bit and snuggle in a afghan. In the heat of the summer, I curse while trying to find the slightest breeze on the deck. I do turn on my bedroom air conditioner and make that room summer central, but I miss the TV, access to the fridge, cold drinks and a comfy chair. A couple of times I went to the movies to sit in air-conditioned comfort to eat my Sno-caps. Last summer was so brutally hot I finally took the step of adding central air. It must be an age thing. The heat seldom bothered me as much as it does now. I think it made me crotchety.

When I was in Morocco, the weather was perfect for walking around: in the 50’s most days. The Moroccans wore heavy sweaters and even winter coats. In Ghana, during the harmattan, the nights were chilly but only in comparison to the heat of every day. My students wore sweaters and hats. I think it was in the 70’s. Everything is relative.

I have become addicted to An Idiot Abroad on the Science Channel. Karl Pilkington gets sent around the world to see the seven wonders. The gimmick is it’s Ricky Gervaise doing the sending, and he sends Karl on the most circuitous routes to each wonder and each route is meant to make Karl uncomfortable in some way. Karl gives us his observations, and I laugh right out loud. He does not want to travel the world, and he is generally miserable. He sits on his camel and complains about squashed testicles. In China he says it’s not a Great Wall but an all right wall and he rides miles and miles across the desert to get to Petra all the while complaining about the sand and the camel. On the way he stays with Bedouins and has sheep’s head for dinner. I can’t tell you what’s so funny. You just have to watch. Karl is miserable, and I never tire of hearing his observations which are actually pretty honest. He is no ugly Brit abroad. Last night he went to Brazil, and I have yet to watch it. I can hardly wait.

“Both of your socks should always be the same color, Or they should at least both be fairly dark”

February 26, 2011

After the rain stopped last night, the temperature dropped just enough to give us a dusting of snow which is melting now. It’s only 34°, but the wind is gone and the sun is shining. Yesterday, the wind gusts reached as high as 50 MPH but felled none of my pine trees.

Not much going on today. I need to fill the bird feeders and do a wash, and I have the new Patricia Cornwell so that’s a possibility. Yup, lounging and reading are just perfect for the day.

I have lost my muse again and just can’t access the back memory drawers. The only things that came to mind were socks with lace at the top. No, I don’t wear them anymore, but I did at one time, when I was very young. Right now I have two socks with no partners. They took the same route as all the other socks so I have no idea what happened. I think they may be hidden in the corners of some tight fitting bottom sheets. That’s happened before. Speaking of fitted bottom sheets, I just never fold mine well with or without a hidden sock. I try corner to corner and end up with a mess which I hide on the bottom of the sheets in the linen closet. I went looking on youtube for some help and found a great way to fold one if I have lots of time. It had to do with inverting cornets, folding them and then smoothing the creases, but I figure life is too short to spend so much time on a sheet so I’m stuck with blobs which might be hiding socks. They’ll reappear at some time. I’m not worried. Speaking of socks, I hate to throw any away. Many of mine have holes. My friend Clare and my sister Moe have been giving me socks for Christmas, but I just add them to the sock pile. When I have to fold over the tops of the sock to keep the toes inside, I break down and toss the pair or I add them to the dust rags. Socks make great dust bags, even better than the cuffs of my sweatshirts.

Okay, I’m done. If I keep going, I’ll fill page after page and I have that wash waiting.

“I must complain the cards are ill shuffled till I have a good hand.”

February 25, 2011

Around three this morning the rain started and it’s still pouring. A strong wind is blowing even the thickest branches in the backyard, and I bet several will fall. Scrub pine is fragile. The house is dark but not quiet. I can hear the wind, the rain hitting the windows and a constant dripping from the roof. The animals are asleep. When I finish here, I have to venture out for a few groceries, but that’s all I have to do today. I’m thinking I’ll come home, get out of my wet clothes into cozies and read.

Last night was trivia, and my strangest contribution was knowing the name of the Keebler elf. I look forward to the Thursday trivia. It’s dinner out, a night with friends and the fun of wracking my brain for answers hidden in some drawer way in the back. We like to win, but last night we struggled on one round which had us way in the back of the pack, sixth going into the final question, but we rallied and ended up third.

We have been a game playing family for as long as I can remember. From the time I was little, we’d sit around the kitchen table and play. Early on my parents taught my brother and me whist so they could always have ready partners. My dad taught us card games like fan tan, cribbage and casino, and we played games like dominoes, Kismet, Uno or Skat. When we played Uno, my father never remembered to say Uno when he had one card left. One game he was so frustrated by having to pick up cards he took his book of matches, placed it in the middle of the table and said that was his Uno, and he didn’t ever have to say it. It got no approval as we all took some joy in yelling, “You didn’t say Uno!”

Everywhere we traveled, my dad and I played cribbage. On one trip to Ireland, we realized we had left the board at home so we went shopping and found one at a store in Dublin. It became our official traveling board. Later on, for whatever the reason, the wooden board warped and two corners were always in the air, but we didn’t care. It was a memory in itself, and we took it everywhere. My mother often took pictures of the two of us playing. I especially remember a picture taken in Germany. We were in Garmisch. We were on the bed, my dad and I, each to our side with the board in the middle. We posed as my mother took the picture. She then got comfy and read while we played. My father and I made fun of each other and baited each other as we played game after game. My mother ignored us. She was a smart woman.

“The afternoon passed more slowly than a walnut-sized kidney stone.”

February 24, 2011

Cold is the word of the day and it’s going to be the word of the week. In my mind February is always grouped with December and January and is still winter while March is nearly spring, not yet spring but nearly spring. Baseball fills the sports’ pages, the bulbs are poking their heads out of the ground and the garden stores have seeds and starter boxes. We just can’t plant outside. For that, we have to wait until it’s really spring.

Today is a full day. This morning I have to attend the funeral for my friend’s stepfather; this afternoon Gracie has a well dog visit, and tonight is trivia. Somewhere in there I have to fit in a trip to the dump. Yesterday I had nothing to do; today is filled. It’s weird how my days seem to work out that way.

When I was a kid, I’d sometimes get bored, especially during the summer. I’d tire of the pool, my bike and even the library. I’d whine to my mother there was nothing to do, and she’d make suggestions, all of which irrefutably proved to me that parents had never been children.

When I got older, around high school age, there never seemed to be enough time to be bored. I left for school at 6:45 and was seldom home before 4:45. I’d do my homework, have dinner, watch a TV show or two and then head to bed. Most of the week I was so tired, I could barely drag myself to the weekends. College was different. Carrying five courses each semester seemed like a walk in the park compared to high school. I seldom had more than three classes a day, and then all the rest of the day was mine. I loved college.

Before I retired, I was up every day at 5 or no later than 5:15. I was at work by 6:30 and seldom home before 4. Many nights I had meetings so I hurried home to take care of the dog, grab a bite then go right back out. I prayed for boredom.

It’s funny now. I have plenty of time on my hands, and I am never bored. I read, take a ride, play on the computer or even nap. Sometimes I stand by the window and watch the birds at the feeders. I seem to fill even the emptiest of days.

Winter is the season in which people try to keep the house as warm as it was in the summer, when they complained about the heat.

February 22, 2011

The day has been a busy one with me running all over getting blood tests done in two places and a tire checked and filled. The errands meant going across from one side of the cape to the other. The worst  of it all was no morning coffee. Blood letting I don’t mind but missing my morning coffee makes me grumpy.

The cold just doesn’t seem to want to leave. It’s 27° now and last night was in the single digits, but I didn’t care. I was inside, warm and cozy. Gracie made a pit stop on the run last night before bed. She wasn’t enjoying the cold.

When I was a kid, on the coldest mornings, frost gathered inside on the bottom window panes. To me, the frost always looked like mountain ranges spread across the pane with the summits all different heights. I used to take my fingernail and draw or write on the windows. I never remember being cold, but I suspect the house was not well insulated. Radiators were the source of the heat. The one in my room was on the floor at the foot of the bed. I remember my father fiddling with the silver control on the left side of the radiator. On really cold days, when I got home from school, I’d lean against the hot radiator to get warm. After playing in the snow, we used to put our wet mittens on the top of the radiator so they would dry faster. I loved the sounds of the radiator: the hissing of the steam and the banging of the pipes.

I know my house is warmer and there is never any frost, but I miss that old radiator. It is one more thing gone.

“Guard against the impostures of pretended patriotism.”

February 21, 2011

The snow is gently falling in tiny flakes. It’s leaving a coating on the lawns but not the roads. I think it’s pretty. Today is cold but without a wind it seems warmer. Finches have taken over my feeders. Most are goldfinches, but I did see a house finch. A nuthatch flew in quickly, grabbed a seed and settled on a branch to enjoy it. I haven’t seen a chickadee in a while. They used to be my most frequent visitors, and I miss them. The suet feeder is empty. I’ll have to brave the elements later and fill it. I have a couple of woodpeckers who drop by all the time to dine at that feeder.

Today is called Presidents’ Day. It didn’t exist when I was young. We observed Washington’s birthday, February 22nd, as a holiday and always had it off from school because it usually fell during our February vacation. Lincoln’s birthday was February 12th, and we had that off from school too. Later, the powers that be tinkered with the birthdays and decided a Monday holiday combining both was the best idea so today unofficially celebrates Lincoln and Washington. There is no official federal holiday called Presidents’ Day. The federal government celebrates today as Washington’s Birthday and that’s it, nothing else. The other presidents were tossed by the wayside.

I’m okay with recognizing Washington. He was, after all, the first president, and there are some great myths associated with him like his wooden teeth and the chopping of the cherry tree. I went looking and found some facts I didn’t know about Washington. He was the only Founding Father to free his slaves; he is credited with introducing the mule to America; his second inaugural address was the shortest ever given, and he grew marijuana on his farm, never smoked it though, didn’t even inhale. He used it for hemp.

I figure lots of presidents belong by the wayside and ought not to be celebrated so, like the federal government, I’m sticking with Washington.