“Americans will put up with anything provided it doesn’t block traffic.”

This morning the alarm woke me at 4:30. That’s right, 4:30, the most ungodly of hours, which is a bit of a play on the day as I got that early so I could leave at 5 to go to the 20th anniversary mass for my father. It is nearly beyond belief to realize he has been gone that long. I think of him often, and we still miss him every day. The mass was in a church about an hour and a half from here, close to where he and my mother used to live. My sister from Colorado is here for a few days and came especially for the mass. I left at 5 and arrived at the church about 5 minutes before the mass ended. A traffic accident on the expressway kept me in bumper to bumper traffic. I celebrate birthdays, the Fourth of July and a Christmas or two before the traffic broke, but once I knew I was going to be late, I was patient sitting in the car, so unlike me, but I hadn’t any other choice. I listened to the radio and learned all about the fiscal crisis in Cyprus, the snow coming my way and traffic updates on the 3’s. I’m hoping someone opines about Cyprus so I can jump in with my opinion. The ride home was just as awful. Another accident kept me in bumper to bumper traffic before I even reached the city, but once through the mess, I whizzed my way home. I had an errand which I didn’t care to do and, instead, went straight home and back to bed. I just woke up.

We all went to breakfast after the mass. Three of my cousins took the day off so they could go to mass and breakfast then they’ll spend the rest of the day with my two sisters. I like my family. I am much older, and though they are closer to my two sisters and spend lots of time together, I always get the hug and the kiss when we see each other. We are a family of huggers and kissers, even the guys. That’s a cool thing.

Two inches of snow are coming my way. I swear my sister brought it as she left over a foot of it behind in Colorado. The snow won’t last, according to the six or eight weather forecasts I heard, as it will be warm enough to melt the snow the next two days. I think the words were seasonably warm which didn’t get my heart thumping.

Well, that’s it for today: not much happening when you spend most of the day sitting in a car moving at a snail’s pace and listening to a combination of NPR, WBZ news radio and WEEI sports. Did I mention I found out that a 15th seed has made it to the sweet 16 for the first time?

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30 Comments on ““Americans will put up with anything provided it doesn’t block traffic.””

  1. Caryn Says:

    Hi Kat,
    I hate traffic like that. And you had it both ways, too. Double whammy.
    If we had flying cars, we’d just have to hang around. 🙂
    Rocky and I went to the post office. Then we went to the lake. It was brutally windy there and very cold. But there was a swan floating about so I braved the bitter winds and took bad photos of it. No telephoto lens yet.
    It’s cloudy here but every now and then the sun would brighten things up a bit and there were blue holes in the clouds. I saw a very yellow willow and a turkey vulture. Sure signs of spring. I had hopes. I stopped at Walgreens for things I didn’t need. When I came out tiny snow balls were falling from the sky. 😛
    Not much happening here, either, and I don’t have the stuck in traffic excuse. I have winter fedup. 🙂
    Enjoy the day.

    • Hi Caryn,
      On the way home, I just couldn’t believe I was in it again. I wanted a blow up person as the HOV lane was buzzing right along. Gracie in a bonnet would have worked as well.

      Kudos for the swan roughing it on a day like today and kudos for you and Rocky for bearing the cold and wind!

      I am also fed up with winter. I don’t usually get like this, but this year has really gotten to me. Maybe if we had fewer rain days and a bit more sun I could have tolerated it more. I am grouchy, a sure sign of winter madness taking hold.

      I’m going to stay cozy and warm and comfy. I earned it!

      I hope the rest of your day is a bit better!!

  2. olof1 Says:

    I think I’ve never heard of a 20th anniversary mass for anyone in my entire life. I guess that’s one of the differences between catholics and protestants.

    We don’t like each other at all in my family 🙂 But they all seems to be curious about what the others do. I’ve become the only one all of them can talk with, I’m not sure if that’s a blessing or a curse 🙂 🙂 🙂 Well I do like my sister and brothers but we don’t really care enough to visit each other. We have Facebook and that seems to be enough 🙂

    We’ve had another wondeful day here, lots of sunshine and over 32F . But I’m getting a bit confused when looking at the predictions for easter. At first we should continue to have this wonderful weather, then they changed that to lots of snow. I checked again just reasently and now we’ll have cloudy and at least over 32F. It will be fun to see whatb it really will be 🙂 🙂

    Have a great day!

    • Christer,
      Memorial masses are common. Sometime during the service the priest says a special prayer and names the people for whom the prayer is special.

      Other than my brother, we all get along. He doesn’t like anyone except his two kids and even his ex-wife which is, I suppose, a good thing.

      I swear you have all the best days while we suffer through snow and sleet and clouds. Right now is another one of those cloudy days we seem to have almost every day!

      Enjoy your evening.

  3. Birgit Says:

    Living in a metropolitan area traffic jams are daily routine. Not for me right now, but train traffic troubles are also common.
    One hot summer day in July 2010 we had a special traffic jam on our local Autobahn, the freeway was closed for cars and nearly all people met and had a great party on the street. About 3 million people in a funny 40 miles long pedestrians and bicycle traffic jam:
    Too bad you couldn’t attend the whole mass. Have a great time with your sister!

    • Birgit,
      The timing was right for missing the traffic but the accident screwed up my schedule.

      Leaving the cape on a summer Sunday takes hours. It makes me glad I live here. No weekend is worth that time in traffic.

      I couldn’t believe the density of people on that road. It looks a bit like the start of the Boston Marathon.

      It was great seeing my sister from Colorado. We talk often but seeing her is always fun.

  4. Vintage Spins Says:

    I’m sorry about your frustrating journey to the mass – I can relate to how you must have felt. (Congratulations on your show of patience! ) I can’t stand being late for anything and being stuck in a traffic jam would have elicited some choice language from me, along with a rise in blood pressure. (Fortunately, I don’t actually drive, but I’ve been stuck in subway tunnels often enough when on a tight schedule . . . and it’s not a pretty sight!

    Hugs and kisses are VERY cool – one can never have too many of them! You’re very fortunate to be part of such a close-knit family.


    • Marie,
      I figured I was going to be late so complaining about it wouldn’t matter. I just couldn’t believe that people did that every day. Being late is also a bugaboo of mine but somethings are out of my control.

      It is so true about the family being close. My parents’ generation was the same way. They had lots of parties, and I always saw my aunts and uncles.

  5. Hedley Says:

    Cyprus ? given the rather strange passing of Boris Berezovsky in his bathtub in Ascot, I would think very carefully before imposing a levy on the $20B of Russian deposits in Nicosia. Even Makarios
    would have been hesitant to pull that stunt.

    I random over to the Chapel on the dates representing the birth and the passing of my Mum. Carl was the janitor, I would ring the bell and he would let me in. Carl too has passed on so these days I sit in the parking lot and take a couple of minutes to concentrate. This is Holy Week and the time for reflection and meditation within our faith. I hope that the special mass for your Father brought that feeling of comfort and of the spirit if only for a period in time.

    Passover begins this evening and so to repeat myself

    “Wherever you are, may your God go with you”

    • My Dear Hedley,
      The means of his death have yet to be determined, shades of umbrellas with poisoned needles. At first he wasn’t even identified in the paper.

      I had so any memories of my dad today. He is never really far but today he was especially close.

      I always say hello to him and my mom when I pass the cemetery. Sometimes I stop; other times it’s a quick hello. I always let them know how much they’re missed.

      To repeat you:

      “Wherever you are, may your God go with you”

  6. Hedley Says:

    Given the absolutely wonderful work by Birgit to create your new masthead you might have to cough up a Shameless Pandering Day for our Friend in Bochum. At the very least you should produce “I’m Bored” from one Iggy Pop.

  7. My Dear Hedley,
    The market is ripe for mugs such as this one!

    • Birgit Says:

      Hedley, great idea! Blue, yellow, green and red Katmah mugs with monkey poop coffee.
      Kat, you could also sell Bolga baskets in your KTCC webshop. You certainly have to fly very often to Ghana to get enough coffee and baskets for the international market and we get more Ghana stories 🙂

      • Hedley Says:

        Maybe there is a market for Judy Collins cassette tapes to go with the Katmah mug and the monkey poop coffee packs. I am seeing a whole internet opportunity here.

      • Hedley Says:

        And no more Ghana stories without random big animal tales (sic)

        If Anderson Cooper can go swimming with the Nile Crocs, I want Katmah versus the Lions stuff….You know the sort of thing,,,

        ” I was listening to my Judy Collins tape and bottle feeding Sheba the abandoned Lion cub . Many years passed and upon my return to Ghana Sheba spotted me in the village and came bounding out to greet me as her long lost Mah, proudly showing me her pride of lion cubs (one of which had eaten Ralph)”

      • Birgit,
        I would have to start a business so I could take off the flights on my income tax as the fodder right now is empty of cash after my last two trips.

        Two flights a year ought to do it. No coffee there-they don’t grow it. Ghanaians don’t even drink it. The only stuff available is instant coffee in a tin: disgusting. No fresh milk either: evaporated, also disgusting!

        I’d love to have new Ghana stories to share.

      • MDH,
        I’ll have to go to Mole Park on my next trip and to the hippo preserve on my next trip. I have been to neither place.

        I gave Anderson Cooper huge props for that one. Those crocs were huge and he was right up close following that one with his little camera.

        I can do those tales though maybe I’ll choose a baboon as I really saw a bunch of them. Instead of eating Ralph they can rend him. Maybe Both Sides Now

    • im6 Says:

      Do regulars get a special discount at Katbucks?

  8. Erin Says:

    Good to see you today, Kat! Love the new banner.

  9. Bob Says:

    Jews also celebrate the anniversary of the death of a loved one. We light a candle in a glass that lasts for 24 hours. On Friday night the names of the persons who have died in the congregation whose anniversaries are read aloud in the Temple and special prayers are recited. We believe that the person who died lives on through their memory by the living. I am always amazed at the similarities in practice of the three Abrahamic faiths.

    Tonight is the first night of Passover. This is probably the oldest holiday in the Jewish year going back to Ezra the scribe after the Jews returned to Israel from the first Babylonian exile. Jesus and his Disciples were probably celebrating the Passover Seder before his crucifixion since they were all Jewish. President Obama has instituted a Passover Seder in the White House. He discovered three of his Jewish campaign aids celebrating a make shift Seder in a hotel basement during the 2008 campaign and he joined them. He now celebrates Passover in the White House because he wants his daughters to understand that being freed from slavery to redemption is an important lesson regardless of your faith. He added the reading of the Emancipation Proclamation to the traditional ending of “Next Year in Jerusalem”.

    No matter how many roads and multiple lanes we build we can’t seem to escape traffic jams. Most cars here have only one occupant as we creep along spewing carbon dioxide into the atmosphere. The amazing thing is that there will be a jam without any reason. No accident and no cops glaring through radar guns. The traffic just crawls and then like the red sea parting traffic opens up for no apparent reason.

    In the early 1980s I lived in a one cigarette town in West Texas called “Big Spring”. It was a one cigarette town because one could smoke one cigarette in the car while going from one end of town to the other. Driving was easy but there was nothing to do after six at night. No movies, no theater, no bars or night clubs and only a few restaurants that closed up at nine. In other words, “Big Spring” was the place that god would start if the world needed an enema. I will put up with traffic anytime to enjoy some entertaining night life.

    • Bob,
      That is so similar to the mass remembrances we celebrate the anniversaries. The priest reads out the names for whom the mass is given, and they receive special blessings. We use to go every year when my mother was alive but now we do increment dates.

      I have attended two Seders at the homes of friends. I had read about the traditions but those were the first times I was part of them. Listening to the Hebrew was remarkable and knowing how the ceremony hash’t changed made me understand so much better the traditions of Jews and how they connect one generation to another.

      Those new reason traffic jams re the ones which make me tear out my hair. I get to the break-out spot and there i nothing. It makes me want to scream. At least today I knew the reason for the stack up. The HOV lane goes by so fast I want a couple of blown up passengers!

      That’s what I always think about as a one horse town. Many in New Hampshire are like that. They have a general store which closes at 5, no restaurants and maybe a coffee shop. I need more civilization than that!

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