“Cinderella never asked for a prince. She asked for a night off and a dress.” 

Today is chilly because of the wind. I can see the oak branch over the deck keeping its own beat by rhythmically swaying back and forth. The tops of the pine trees bend first to one side then to the other. Through the trees, I can see a deep blue sky without a single cloud. It is a beautiful day.

Last night Nala and Henry had a bad night. He snapped at her twice and scared her. I hugged her and she settled down. I then noticed Henry was drooling and knew he wasn’t feeling good so he was a bit testy. I just didn’t know why. I found out later he was guilty after the fact. My cleaning lady did not shut the gate to Jack’s room. Nala went in and stole his food. She must have thought she was in a foody heaven on Earth. One stolen food item was a large container of Temptations, Jack’s favorite snack. I found the empty in the yard. I had seen Henry eating something, but it was gone by the time I got to the yard so I had no idea what he was munching. Last night Nala tossed her cookies, or rather Jack’s, on my bed. I told both dogs I had no sympathy, but they ignored me. Today they are back to normal. Nala stole cardboard. I watched her wrestle it through the dog door.

When I was in the seventh grade, I played CYO basketball. I wanted to be able to use one of the hoops in the schoolyard during recess so I asked. I was turned down. My teacher told me it was unseemly for girls in skirts to be jumping around the yard. I asked her why. She told me girls have a special responsibility to prepare for womanhood. That was her answer. I pressed once more and was again told no.

When I was a freshman in college, women had to wear skirts. We’re talking the mid to late 60’s. The winter of my sophomore year was brutally cold so the powers that be allowed women to wear pants. Skirts were gone for good. We had moved beyond the Victorian Age.

When I was twenty-one, I accepted a Peace Corps invitation to Ghana knowing little about that country beyond what the Atlas told me. We had nearly three months of training all over the country. It was during that training I realized I could do almost anything. I was living thousands of miles away from home. I was with other trainees I had just met who would become dear friends. I was eating strange foods with strange names. I was learning my way around Ghana, and I was learning a new language, Hausa. I was so immersed in all of Ghana I didn’t realize how important all these experiences were in making me a stronger, more confident woman, traits I have carried with me all of my life. I give thanks almost every day for having the courage, at twenty-one, to accept an invitation to serve in Ghana, to live in Africa.

Today is International Women’s Day which celebrates the global, social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. Wear purple.

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10 Comments on ““Cinderella never asked for a prince. She asked for a night off and a dress.” ”

  1. Christer. Says:

    Much the same nice weather again today and they’re guessing it will last at least over the weekend 🙂 Nights are bitterly cold still though.

    Alma has behaved pretty well for being her but she’s annoying Albin a bit too much and he has answered by finally biting her. I so understand him so I only tell them to calm down in a very calm voice. They both get so surprised by that that they stop doing what they’re doing 🙂 🙂 🙂

    Have a great day!


    • katry Says:

      Our weather is quite similar. It also gets quite cold at night here. The good thing is a better days always seems to happen.

      I have your dogs and you have mine. Henry doesn’t tolerate Nala, but he is also too tough on her sometimes. It is a process.

      Have a great day!

  2. lilydark Says:

    HI Kat,
    I do love reading about the dogs! I’m so glad you chose to go to Africa. There is a chill in the air. Yesterday, by mistake, a friend said it was actually the lack of humidity that makes it feel colder. I read that as it was the lack of humanity that makes it feel colder.
    Have a special day,
    Lori and Ms. Cookie

    • katry Says:

      Hi Lori,
      The dogs keep m going. I was out for nearly two hours tonight. Wh I got home, Nala had destroyed a small basket, chewed a wooden ruler and pencil eraser. She also chewed two pens. I ended up doing clean-up.

      I like your interpretation of the weather.

  3. Bob Says:

    Hi Kat,

    When I was in college, at the same time as you, all woman on campus had to live in the woman’s dorms. Additionally, they had a 10 o’clock curfew during week nights and 11 o’clock on Friday and Saturday nights. We men had no curfew. In those days some of the men, including myself, marched on the administration building to try to free the woman from the curfew. Even married woman who weren’t living in town with their husbands were locked up at night. We got a meeting with the middle aged dean of woman. She replied that woman had to have curfews because woman can become pregnant. We replied that they can become pregnant during the daylight hours. She had no answer but gave us just a strange look. I don’t think she ever had or thought about having sex during the daytime, if she ever had sex. 🙂 Today, all the dorms at the same school are coed with no restrictions.

    Today the sun came out but it is still chilly. The high temperature was 47°. By Friday, yet another cold front will sweep through with a chance of a thin wintery mix of sleet and snow. Yuk. 🙁

    • katry Says:

      Hi Bob,
      No one was supposed to live off campus until senior year. I lived off campus both junior and senior year.

      I don’t remember the dorm curfew, but I think it was the same for both sexes. I had to account for my time on weekends and leave a phone number. I don’t know what the rules for men were.

      Today stayed windy which made it feel colder. We will have either rain or snow or both tomorrow.

  4. Rowen Says:

    “She told me girls have a special responsibility to prepare for womanhood.” Gag. Yeah, I know this was not a rare occurrence. But even so….

    • katry Says:

      It was common when I was twelve, but we were already chafing against it. I am sure the nun was taken a bit aback when I asked a second time.

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