“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.”

Thanksgiving Day is filled with memories. The smell of the kitchen while the turkey cooked was nearly sublime. I used to sneak and open the oven to steal the crisp end of the stuffing hanging out of the turkey. I remember being shocked when I was a kid to find out the stuffing was not in the turkey’s head. The kitchen windows were steamed from the heat of the oven while the turkey cooked. All four stove burners had pots filled with vegetables. I especially remember one pot because I think my mother had it forever. The pot had a dent and a black spot on the side which never disappeared. It usually held the potatoes.

We watched the Macy’s parade. We snacked while we watched. I remember tangerines, M&M’s and mixed nuts in the shell served in a special bowl. The nutcracker was thick metal and looked a bit like scissors in having two sides. I always thought the walnuts were the hardest to crack. I liked the Brazil nuts but not the almonds. I’m still not a fan of almonds.

Befitting the occasion, we sat in the dining room. The table always looked lovely covered in a holiday tablecloth and set with special dishes. As my family got bigger, we ran out of room at the table so the overflow ate in the kitchen.

My father always wanted a drumstick. The rest of us, except my brother the vegetarian, weren’t particular. We ate both white and dark meat. I remember passing the filled dishes around the table took some maneuvering with the table so tightly packed with food.

My father ate quickly so he could get back to his football games. The rest of us sat at the table to finish eating. Soon enough, the table emptied, and my mother and I tag-teamed for the cleanup. I cleared the table, and she loaded the dishwasher, and we both cleaned the kitchen. After everything was cleared, we brought out the pies. The always pies were apple and lemon meringue. Sometimes they’d be blueberry, pumpkin or sweet potato. My father loved his apple pie with cheddar. That’s a New England thing. I had lemon meringue.

Today I’ll miss family and friends. It will be a quiet Thanksgiving. I’ll wear my turkey earrings, and I may even get dressed.

I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving.

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18 Comments on ““As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.””

  1. lonskip Says:

    Kat- First comment i a long time- but even if I don’t always catch your blog it is a holiday tradition. Thank you for continuing it. Like Alice’s Restaurant, Stephen Kellogg’s Thanksgiving and now maybe James McMurtry’s Holiday ( I heard yesterday ) it is a must and would be disappointed if I didn’t catch it. Wishing you and everyone on Coffee a wonderful Thanksgiving and everyone- somehow- stay safe- Much Thanks- Pat

    • katry Says:

      I figure you’re probably hanging in the background. I’m glad you commented. I can’t imagine Coffee disappearing again. It’s been around so long that it does have traditions and Alice’s Restaurant, all 18 minutes, are part of that tradition. It was a different Thanksgiving, but I have leftovers and I get to savor dinner one more time. You too stay safe!!

  2. Hedley Says:

    From Detroit I wish everyone a blessed Thanksgiving. A year of extraordinary challenges, and here we all are reading about Ghana, arguing about Joni and Lenny, facing a new administration and the departure of the PINO, and trying to stay safe

    For us, we welcomed a beautiful granddaughter who we know mostly through pictures and FaceTime. She will be coming from Denver next weekend to spend most of the month with us. I spent yesterday afternoon assembling a new crib for her, not what I was expecting at 66

    Wherever you are may your God be with you

    • katry Says:

      My Dear Hedley,

      This has been such a horrific year. I prefer not to dwell on what we all know, what we all have been living through. I want the sanity of the familiar, and that’s what we’ve got here on Coffee, each other and the familiar. I feel blessed every day.

      Your granddaughter is beautiful.

      Happy Thanksgiving. Say well and stay safe.

  3. Sheila Says:

    I’m wearing my maize earrings today, Kat! A touch of festive! Happy Thanksgiving to everyone:) Eat well, stay safe, and wear elastic waist pants!

    • katry Says:

      We all need a touch of festive!

      I’m wearing turkeys, brown turkeys, as befitting the season. My pants just happen to have an elastic waist!.

      Happy Thanksgiving, Sheila

  4. Bob Says:

    Hi Kat,

    Horrific doesn’t even come close to describing this year. However, the outcome of the Presidential election brings a ray of hope for some kind of normalcy next year. Thankfully, no one here has been sick, because we have been careful and very lucky.

    So far we are keeping things the same as in previous years, Macy’s parade, dog show and then the Cowboys verses the former Redskins football game. We will have a small feast with just the immediate family as we’ve done in recent years.

    Happy Thanksgiving and stay safe.

    • katry Says:

      Hi Bob,
      I also feel lucky as I don’t know anyone who has been sick. I am quite careful and have only seen other people socially three times since March. I always wear a mask.

      That so many people felt compelled to vote this year and so many for Joe Biden, I also have hope. It will take a long time, but I think Je can bring us back from the brink.

      I also watched the parade and then switched to the dog show. I always root for the boxers.

      Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!!

      • Bob Says:

        Thanks, just came in from reading on my patio. The sky is clear and the temperature is a wonderful 73°. This year the parade and the dog show was truncated with fewer dogs and fewer people. All and all it’s turned out to be a good holiday. It will be perfect if the Cowboys can beat the former Redskins. Now they’re just known as the “Washington Team”.

      • katry Says:

        I had dinner late, close to five. It was delicious. There is even enough for another dinner. I also watched the parade and dog show. Both were lean compared to other years but I liked them anyway.

        It rained all day today, sometimes quite heavily. I didn’t watch any football. I watched movies.

  5. Christer. Says:

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    I only have one memory including turkey. My mother had bought a huge one but never really checked if it fitted inthe oven. Also it was still slightly frozen. A long story including an ax. lots of foul words and a not especially well cooked turkey. Sometimes I’m amazed that we actually survived my nothers cooking 🙂

    I have a very similar memory including a frozen goose 🙂 🙂


    • katry Says:

      Thanks, Christer!

      I love your story. It gave me a good laugh. My sister loves your stories of your mother cooking. I had to call her and read this one. She roared laughing!!

  6. Birgit Says:

    Happy Thanksgiving, dear Americans!
    No Thanksgiving here (just a vanishing harvest festival in fall) but this annoying Black Buy-everything-asap is unfortunately spreading. Nope, I refuse to go shopping if I don’t have to but I like that a day reminds us to appreciate good things that happen.
    Thanks for your blog and for keeping this bunch of nice KTCC people together, Kat! I’m glad that all of you are as well as possible so far. Good luck for everyone!

    • katry Says:

      Thank you, Birgit

      This year we have something to be thankful for!! Bye, bye, bye Mr. President!!!

      I hate to grocery shop, have always hated to grocery shop. Now I have my food delivered from three places which have favorite foods. I have avoided other people as much as I can.

      Everyone I am close to is healthy, and for that I give long and loud thanks.

      I love my Coffee family. They are indeed nice people.

      You take care and stay well!!!!

  7. lilydark Says:

    Hi Kat,
    It is a weird day here… still crazy about the death of my friend. It seems so quiet today. I am glad that Cookie is with me, and I may have found a forever home for Rich’s cat. She is being fostered now, at a good place– the person who has her sets up all the concerts for the community at place called Redwood Cardens. Are you going to the John McCuthetion show on Friday produced by Madoline ( sorry about the spelling.) I could send you a link or just go to his home page and you will find it.
    That’s all for now.
    Lori and Cookie

    • katry Says:

      Hi Lori,
      I am still so sorry about your friend. I’m thinking he’s looking down at you and thanking you for finding a home for his kitty. I took Jack and Gwen because they had no place to go. It will take some time before the pain lessens.

      I probably won’t watch it. My attention span of late is short.

      You take care of yourself. Cookie demands it!!

      Kat and the pushy pets.

  8. Caryn Says:

    Hi Kat,
    I spent Thanksgiving Day alone for the first time ever in my long life. It was odd when I thought about that because I felt sure that I must have celebrated Thanksgiving Day alone at some point before this.
    Thanksgiving dinner had already been ordered and picked up. So, yesterday, I got out the best Wedgewood, the second best Chenango,(doing my best Hyacinth Bucket) the Waterford crystal, and the nameless silverware that hasn’t been used in many decades and set the formal dining room table that hasn’t been used in decades either. Rocky, Piki Dog and I had Thanksgiving dinner together in the dining room. (They had the second best china.) The dinner conversation was limited to requests to drop additional food from my plate down to theirs but a wonderful time was had by all.
    I hope your Thanksgiving was as amusing and homey despite being so very different from normal.
    Here’s to next year at a crowded table.

    • katry Says:

      Hi Caryn,
      I too spent my first Thanksgiving alone. I picked up dinner on Wednesday. I didn’t set the table but rather ate in my usual spot, the den. Henry hung around as did Jack. Gwen still stays upstairs.

      It was a quiet day. I watched mostly movies. When Henry barked at the front door louder than usual, I checked. My neighbors, their dog and two of their kids were out walking. It was pouring. We chatted a bit and they sent over pumpkin bread.

      My friends are gone to Florida until May so no holidays together. They were going to leave after Christmas but changed their mind.s They’ll be missed.

      Have a wonderful day. It looks great outside!

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