“My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.”

Every year I post this tribute to my mother. I think about her and miss her every day and sometimes I find myself reaching for the phone to call her.

It is a warm, sunny day as Mother’s Day should be!

My mother had a generosity of spirit. She was funny and smart and the belle of every ball. She always had music going in the kitchen as she worked so she could sing along. She played Frank and Tony and Johnny and from her I learned the old songs. My mother drew all the relatives, and her house was filled. My cousins visited often. She was their favorite aunty. My mother loved to play Big Boggle, and we’d sit for hours at the kitchen table and play so many games we’d lose track of the time. Christmas was always amazing, and she passed this love to all of us. We traveled together, she and I, and my mother was game for anything. I remember Italy and my mother and me after dinner at the hotel bar where she’d enjoy her cognac. She never had it any other time, but we’re on vacation she said and anything goes. I talked to her just about every day, as did my sisters. I loved it when she came to visit. We’d shop, have dinner out then play games at night. I always waited on her when was here. I figured it was the least I could do.

My mother loved extreme weather shows, TV judges and crime. She never missed Judge Judy. She also liked quiz shows and she and I used to play Jeopardy together on the phone at night. She always had a crossword puzzle book with a pen inside on the table beside her chair, and I used to try and fill in some of the blanks. On the dining room table was often a jig saw puzzle, and we all stopped to add pieces on the way to the kitchen. My mother loved a good time.

She did get feisty, and I remember flying slippers aimed at my head when I was a kid. She expertly used mother’s guilt and, “I’ll do it myself,” was her favorite weapon. We sometimes drove her crazy, and she let us know, none too quietly.We never argued over politics. She kept her opinions close. We sometimes argued over other things, but the arguments never lasted long.

I still think to reach for the phone and call my mother when I see something interesting or have a question I know only she can answer. When I woke up this morning, my first thought was of her.

Happy Mother’s Day.

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30 Comments on ““My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.””

  1. Hedley Says:

    DANG ! It looks like I cannot post Pudsey’s incredible victory in Britain has Got Talent. This hound and his partner just nailed 500,000 pounds
    Who needs whatshername when Pudsey has struck a blow for dogs everywhere….I am busy dragging Maggie off the sofa to pick up the pace…One more try, Kat Please dump out useless videos

    • olof1 Says:

      I have to admit that I never would be able to make my dogs do that 🙂 🙂 🙂

    • Bob Says:

      PT Barnum once was quoted “make every act an animal act”. If this mediocre dog act won, then Britain has no talent. I guess lack of talent goes along with warm beer, bad food and ugly woman (the only one of the three that’s not always true). What a terrible legacy the British left the world as they reluctantly were forced out of their empire and proceeded to turn colony after colony over to dictators who would keep them supplied with oil and suppress their people’s political aspirations. I guess the chickens have come home to roost in the UK.

      I for one am getting tired of all these reality shows, except for “The Amazing Race”. I love the places as well as the things they see and do in the world. I could certainly do without the fake crying of Rachel. I wonder if she will be a contestant on the next “America’s Got Talent” show.

      • katry Says:

        Bob,
        I thought the dog was quite talented. It had so many hand commands it recognizes. I don’t even think Lassie could have done as well.

        I only watch The Amazing Race and no other realith shows. I have no interest in any of htem, but I love the Race. Rachel was one pain in the ass!

    • katry Says:

      My Dear Hedley,
      Video trashed but here is a url:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dv_gOBi8Wpk

      Gracie is snoring, but I’m not sure that would get us to the next round!

      • Hedley Says:

        Maggie is really good at snacking but I don’t think that is good enough. She also does an excellent job of riding in the car. Pudsey is definitely a cool hound.

  2. im6 Says:

    What a beauty your mom was, Kat. Several friends have posted Mom photos (from the same time period) on Facebook and I have a photo of my mom from that time and they all look pretty much the same. There’s just something glamorous about them, the clothes and the poses. And they all look so young — which, of course, they were! …

    Now about that Pudsey. So my detective work was correct and BGT what Hedley was referring to in his email. It was pretty amazing, but not sure it was worth 500K pounds. Tune in next week for Dancing With The Dogs.

    • katry Says:

      Thanks, im6. Glamorous is the perfect word to decribe the pictures. All the women were dressed uo, wore lipstick and had amazing hair-dos. My mother was 19 or 20 here depending on which month it was.

      Gracie will give me her paw if she thinks food is involved, but that’s it. No, wait, she actually comes into the house from the yard when I call. It’s when she’s escaped that I am totally ignored.

      • Hedley Says:

        Im6, Pudsey is quite a star, perhaps even talented enough to replace Mike Love in your 401k Beach Boys.
        Get ready for Simon Cowell to support Pudsey’s conquest of America.

  3. olof1 Says:

    It’s a bit funny because every time I read about Your mother I start to think of my best friends mother when we grew up 🙂 The puzzle, crossword and games everything exist in her home 🙂

    Have a great day!
    Christer.

  4. Bob Says:

    I lost my mother when I was 13 in 1961 to stomach cancer. I think of her on days like today and on her birthday. But, her memory is fading as I age. I can still see her image in black and white photos, which I have digitized for posterity, that bring back some memories of her life as my mother. Unfortunately, the sound of her voice and her graceful movements have long since faded from my brain cells.

    I believe that those who have passed away only live on if we their descendants remember them.

    Have a great day!

    • katry Says:

      Bob,
      I am so sorry you lost your mother when you were so young. I have very vivid memories of my mother but I also have some which have begun to fade.

      I figure if you have kids, you live on longer in their memories because you were grandparents and are remembered for that. The next generation after mine, my niece and nephews, will remember me but after that I’ll just be a name hanging on the family tree.

  5. Hedley Says:

    Wow, what a finish to the EPL, City losing in injury time and somehow scored two to win and beat their neighbors to the title. Absolutely sensational.
    Tottenham easily beat Fulham and have the 4th qualification spot for the Champions League next year BUT, here is the problem. If Chelsea beat Bayern Munich in the Champions League final next Saturday, they take Tottenham’s spot. So now I have the delightful prospect of pulling for a German team.

    • katry Says:

      My Dear Hedley,
      I know there is a meaning in all you say, and I’m thinking I have to root for Bayern Munich to keep Tottenham in the fight.

      • Hedley Says:

        Thank you Kat, it’s a most strange situation. The Champions League means about $50m to Tottenham as well as the prestige and ability to keep players. Next Saturday will be quite an adventure

  6. katry Says:

    Fingers will be crossed!!!

  7. katry Says:

    My Dear Hedley,
    It seems Maggie and Gracie share the same talents. Gracie, however, is also a splendid hole digger and can leap fences in a single bound. We’re still waiting for an agent!

    • Hedley Says:

      Gracie also knows when it is the correct day to go to the Dump. Maggie knows when I am not going to work and puts pressure up for a car ride.
      Pudsey has made a lot of people smile. This is a good thing

  8. Caryn Says:

    Hi Kat,
    My Rocky would win at watching. He is a Watching Dog.

    Your mother’s photo looks very much like ones taken of my mother at about the same age. I can’t imagine dressing up that much just for every day but it was the thing to do back then.

    I didn’t get the grass seed. I got two large hanging baskets of tiny purple petunias and one small pot of lonely-looking white daisies. How that fixes the lawn, I don’t know but I’ll work on it.

    Happy Mother’s Day!

    • katry Says:

      Hi Caryn,
      I swear there are spells on you as soon as you step into the garden shop. You want a plant but you buy several plants for the front and back and herbs for the flowerboxes. I can see my haul now!

      Be carefu when you go back for the grass seed!

      Happy Mother’s Day to you too. Gracie and the kitties sent me two cards!

  9. MT C Says:

    Kat,

    I enjoy your tribute every year, which has only been three or four now. Seems longer than that. And that’s good as I really like to savor the best things in life.

    Yesterday, I got more of the junk email I enjoy. This time it was from Classmates.com. Its supposed to be a social site set up for classmates to join and exchange whatever it is that classmates are supposed to exchange. Strange that most of them on there in my high school class live within shouting distance of each other and yet have to exchange their whatevers via some net site, rather than stop in on the way by and say hi.

    Sorry, having one of those ‘where was I moments’ again. They seem to be coming more naturally now for some reason. Oh, yeah, the Classmates.com. I joined back when it first started and was free. I like to be amongst the first in line when it come to free stuff. Anyway, now that its for FEE, I’ve never been back, but that hasn’t slowed their hopes and they regularly send me invites.

    Well, the one they sent yesterday might just change my mind. They listed the usual few names that I might know/remember, but I’ve been traveling since graduation and a few are only vaguely familiar. But the catcher for me was they have scanned and posted nearly all the yearbooks since Arms Academy in Shelburne Falls, MA was started. (not really an Academy, just a hs, but was named so as to sound good with Arms, who was Ira Arms the founder of said institution way back when. it has since departed as far as an educational institute goes, but did serve as our multi-town high school for lots of years).

    I found the oldest they had done so far and opened that (it was free so why not?). It was the 1939 one. First page I read had my Uncle Archie on it. Later was described his prowess at baseball. What a surprise, I never knew he was a ball star as a senior! Matter of fact I never knew he even went to Arms.

    Further down the page, on the sophomore section, third from the right on the fist row was my mother! What a surprise again! I knew she went to Arms as that was where she met my father, but it really never connected with me for some reason.

    So I just had to skip over to the Freshman section and there my father was too. He was wayyyyyy in the back of a very small picture, but with a magnifying lens I could clearly make him out. So of course knowing that he played football in hs, I had to go to the sports section as well. And in a much easier to see photo, there he was! Still toward the back, of course, but still visible. Reading through the accompanying paragraph, it said that he had earned his varsity letter, too! WOW! Back then it was really unusual for a freshman to earn much of anything, much less a varsity letter!

    Well, that made my day and maybe earned Classmates.com another few gelt (I’m sure that’s a word, but google says not. I could say KD I suppose, as that’s the local currency, Kuwait Dinar. Which google doesn’t recognize either. And I’m beginning to have trouble remembering how to spell USD now too.) Still haven’t decided, but maybe.

    Carl

    • katry Says:

      Carl,
      I never knew you were from Shelburne Falls. My roommate here on the cape lived there most of her life. She graduated in 1961. Her name was Francie Woods and she had an older sister, Althea, an older brother Bill and a younger brother whose name I forget. She lived here on the cape for the longest time then moved back home and married a guy from town who ran the gas station on the left just before the street to town. She worked at Mohawk Valley Regional until she retired. I’d visit her and buy the home made bologna.

      I haven’t ever gone to Classmates.com though I do get those invites you mentioned. Your find is amazing and maybe I ought to check it out. The school where my mother went is no longer a school but rather a Chinese church. I don’t know if my father’s school still exists or not. It would be fun to see them young. How very neat you learned more about your parents. I think that’s the best reason for the internet!

  10. bolga Says:

    Kat:
    Photos of that era look similar–I have photos like that of my mom, who will be 94 this year. Unfortunately when I call, she doesn’t have much to say because the hearing is gone and she doesn’t like her hearing aids. In addition, her short term memory is also gone–long term is fine. She can remember the street address, including the house number, where she grew up in New Haven Ct., but can’t remember what she had for lunch today.

    Peg has a photo of her mom around 1945, in a hula skirt and coconut bra, kissing Peg’s dad. We never think of our parents as sexual beings. (p.s.: Your mom looks hot!)

    I once was asked if I could go back in time and live anytime I wanted, what time period would I choose. I chose the time when my parents were growing up and were teenagers. I would love to have known their experiences at that age, before they met, etc. Sort of like back to the future.

    • katry Says:

      Bill,
      My mother would have appreciated your comment!

      My mother passed away when she was 78 from cancer. Luckily I had retired the year before, and we could all take turns staying with her and taking care for her. I hated my mother getting sick. She was amazing and should have lived forever. She would be almost 85 if she were still living.

      My father was a hellion, that much I know, and you’re right-it would be fun to see them as teenagers. Growing up, I never thought of my parents as youg though they were. My mother was 20 when I was born and my father almost 21. I’d love to see them in high school-I have heard stories!!

  11. Bill S. Says:

    Kat:
    That last post was from Bill S., not bolga.


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